By Daniel Becerra

“Do little things that no one else seems to want to do, and be patient, success finds you! That’s a law of life”
- Charlie Tremendous Jones – Motivational-Humorist Speaker

“I was not only applied to school, by doing all my homework and studying for my exams. I also read books on my free time, books that weren’t required. I learned from my father that I had to do more than the rest in order to be better than them”
Donald Trump – Real State Multi-Billionaire, TV Show Star, Best Selling Author

It has taken me a lot of reading and learning from many successful people – not motivational speakers – but rather real successful people to begin seeing common patterns that they all shared in common, patterns that define their leadership and success, not just that, but also I’m beginning to take a closer look at those who stand out the most in their own category. For example, if we look at the computer’s marketing, we would look at Microsoft and Apple, right? If we look at search engines, we have Google who currently dominates, followed by MSN, YAHOO and then AOL. So you study Google and if time allows you also study AOL (given that it has gone downhill recently) to see where it failed. If you’re going to look at the Real State Market, who do you look at? Donald Trump. If you’re looking at athletes, would you study Bruce Lee and Michael Jordan or would you study the guys who never shine, yet were the teammates or friends?

One arguably unfair thing in life is the following: one person gets recognized the most. A group may get recognized, but there will always be a leader and someone who is the best at doing whatever that group does. If you don’t believe that only one person gets most of the glory, then ask yourself this: “Besides, the Mount Rushmore National Memorial (see picture above), where else have you seen a monument for more than one person?” Nowhere. And funny thing is, these people never worked together. Ok, that takes care of the point I’m trying to make. There will always be one who stands out the most and according to the notes, steps and actions I’ve taken (which by the way, truly make a difference) the number one thing that separates the best from one who was part of being the best is this: being willing to do what others don’t do, can’t do or won’t try to do. While you keep yourself from vigorously following this principle, you will keep getting similar results to the rest of people around you. The amazing thing about this is that the more you grow, the more challenges you will find – this happens by law, because there will always be someone who tops you in one way or another, always. That’s really exciting in my opinion.

For example, when I first read “The Game”, I automatically felt the drive to compete with other people, improve myself as much as I had to, just so I could reach to the book’s characters’ level. So each time I got a chance, I would observe what other people did. I would observe and make mental notes of their body language, the way they said things, they way they looked at girls in the eyes, their walk, their hand movement and all of the stuff that made the difference. It went even further with time, while some guys were really good in a particular style, others were really good with what, at first sight, would seem two completely different things. They were both completely different, but they both had very subtle commonalities. For example, I’m a not-so-hyper-guy who excells in conversations with people in general and I’m proud to say I get the results because of that. I don’t walk in any special way or dress like a rockstar – as a matter of fact, I haven’t bought new jeans in a while. Yet, I do quite good. Then I meet Chief, this really high energy guy who dresses hard-rock like, shades and is always smiling and talking loud. He is on his journey to success as well. He moves his hands differenly, his voice volume and tone are different, his looks are different, his walk is different – so what could he and I have in common? We both find ourselves comfortable in whatever style we have and feel no pressure to fit in another group.

Well, I just did a mini-writing on social skills, but whatever. Getting back to my original point, it is those observations that allowed me to make a difference and improve faster than the rest. I really believe that it was these observations that allowed me to see beyond what was being offered. While many of the people I knew (who were in their PUA journey as well) read lines, routines and were hungry for every bit of knowledge from a “Guru”, I was out there willing to do more than just waiting for the information to come. They thought we were at the same level, because we all exposed ourselves to danger – but the difference maker was that little thing that they didn’t do but I did. Observing deeper, taking the time to actually make observations gave me a headstart. Keep in mind, that there is also a lot of guys out there who will mix theories and create their own, but this is – I believe – a bit better, but no where near as good as making your own observations and finding what works for you.

Another example is one that I’m currently experiencing right now, and one thing that I’m certain Ian was experiencing on the last couple of months previous to his departure. I began reading, exercising and simply just being out there. I focused not on the big unique goal, but rather on doing small things everyday, and just not doing them, but doing these small things the best I could them. Like someone once said “Do the things that are easy to do and easy not to do”, I focused on THAT. Results were visible not too long after I began applying myself. For example, I worked on my first impression skills for a while now and close to every time I talked to someone from a Network Marketing company, they all tried to hire me. I had to decline, given that network marketing is not something I want to do right now. Someone would introduce me to another person or a group of people for that matter and within seconds I could have them not just engaged, but also interested. On my writing too, right now I’m pushing myself to write articles every single day and so far, it’s working. Let’s see if I can continue this beyond two days. Same thing with the work out, I’m lifting and doing cardio 4-5 days per week and it gives me more energy and allows me to think more clear. Those little things are really making a difference and bit by bit, it begins to build – eventually showing in a big fat progress.

To be the best, you have to do things that others are not doing. If you’re not reading, begin reading. If you’re not exercising, begin exercising. If you’re not writing on your journal, begin writing on your journal. Combine these three things, how much of your time can these take? If you take 1 hour to read every single day, another 2 hours to exercise and perhaps 30 minutes to write on your journal, then those could be the most three productive hours of your time. Remember, time is more important than money. You can get more money, but you can’t get more time. So if you can’t get more time, then use that time wisely by really working on yourself. Those 3 and a half hours used to develop your physic and intelligence will be much more productive as time goes. YOU! will become a much more valuable person, and remember this: The more valuable you become, the less selling/convincing/working you have to do, BY LAW. Why? Because you become more valuable than other people! Automatically setting you up to get greater jobs, benefits, attention, etc.

For example, I began working on my first job- it was for the Los Angeles Times, knocking on doors selling subscriptions. While I used this as a source to get an income, you can rest assure that I hated it, I wanted a better quality job, so I was presented with the opportunity of working for a networking company, a very challenging one. I was able to keep up with this company because I became more valuable than the rest of the kids that worked in the L.A. Times with me. So while they kept making about 150 per week, I was making a bit over 300 per week. Can you tell what difference it can make to work on yourself?

Devote time to yourself, and internalize that you’re the most important person in this world, above all. A meeting to an activity to improve yourself should be as important to you as a meeting with your boss would be. You wouldn’t miss a meeting with your boss, so don’t miss a meeting with yourself either – why? because you’re your own boss.

I have decided that tomorrow’s article will be on how to really work on yourself. Until tomorrow. I hope that you have enjoyed

It was a pleasure writing for your soul, mind and eyes.
Sincerely,
Daniel

Quote to ponder
“I would rather have a human friend, than a solid, unbreakable statue”
- Some dude in a hispanic movie.

Words: Daniel Becerra. You can follow him on Twitter and Facebook