Comments on: Is Revenge Good or Bad? http://pualifestyle.com/blog/is-revenge-good-or-bad/ Lifestyle for Modern Men Wed, 13 Apr 2011 18:42:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Preben http://pualifestyle.com/blog/is-revenge-good-or-bad/comment-page-1/#comment-3721 Preben Thu, 27 Aug 2009 10:28:25 +0000 http://pualifestyle.com/blog/?p=1895#comment-3721 Much good advice here. Especially "Be kind, not weak". I was "weak" many years ago, and when I removed the "weak" and became "kind" instead, my entire life changed for the better. I confidence got boosted, getting girls was possible, and I became more happy overall. As for being "kind" instead of "weak", I have a definition of it for myself: It's okay to do favors for others and helping them, but when they start taking advantage of you, and "expect" you to do things for them, their gratefulness is gone, and you're a loser. NEVER let it happen. Whenever people lose their gratefulness for the things I do for them, I confront them, or just stop helping them in any way. Being grateful is extremely important to me, and people who's not grateful, does not deserve my time. - I'd rather spend it on grateful people. They help me grow and develop. They appreciate me, and I appreciate them for me. Because I love helping people. And I expect nothing in return, other than a tad of gratefulness. Also, you mention "revenge". I'd say what you're talking about here is standing up for yourself. If you have plenty of self-irony, people can never harm you verbally. Then you're pretty immune. Next, confront them, make fun of them in some way or another, and pretend you don't care. If you don't have the same kind of self-irony that you do, it will repel of you, and right back in their face, making them less likely to "attack" you some other time. Again, great advice here. If anyone can't see the logic and advantages of the things mentioned here, try it for yourself, and grow inside. - Preben Much good advice here.
Especially “Be kind, not weak”. I was “weak” many years ago, and when I removed the “weak” and became “kind” instead, my entire life changed for the better. I confidence got boosted, getting girls was possible, and I became more happy overall.
As for being “kind” instead of “weak”, I have a definition of it for myself:
It’s okay to do favors for others and helping them, but when they start taking advantage of you, and “expect” you to do things for them, their gratefulness is gone, and you’re a loser. NEVER let it happen. Whenever people lose their gratefulness for the things I do for them, I confront them, or just stop helping them in any way.
Being grateful is extremely important to me, and people who’s not grateful, does not deserve my time. – I’d rather spend it on grateful people. They help me grow and develop. They appreciate me, and I appreciate them for me. Because I love helping people. And I expect nothing in return, other than a tad of gratefulness.
Also, you mention “revenge”. I’d say what you’re talking about here is standing up for yourself. If you have plenty of self-irony, people can never harm you verbally. Then you’re pretty immune. Next, confront them, make fun of them in some way or another, and pretend you don’t care. If you don’t have the same kind of self-irony that you do, it will repel of you, and right back in their face, making them less likely to “attack” you some other time.
Again, great advice here. If anyone can’t see the logic and advantages of the things mentioned here, try it for yourself, and grow inside.
- Preben

]]> By: Daniel http://pualifestyle.com/blog/is-revenge-good-or-bad/comment-page-1/#comment-2625 Daniel Tue, 16 Jun 2009 18:11:33 +0000 http://pualifestyle.com/blog/?p=1895#comment-2625 That's a valid point, Siva. But in this occasion, you took my words out of context just a bit. Let me clarify - it's NOT Vicarious Retribution, I don't support that in any way. What I mean by "actively work against those who go against oneness" is simply "defend the body". You notice that I wrote "this can mean both actively working on yourself and actively working against those who work against oneness". In other words, protect the body from those who try to damage it. Though there needs to be a valid reason. That’s a valid point, Siva. But in this occasion, you took my words out of context just a bit. Let me clarify – it’s NOT Vicarious Retribution, I don’t support that in any way.

What I mean by “actively work against those who go against oneness” is simply “defend the body”. You notice that I wrote “this can mean both actively working on yourself and actively working against those who work against oneness”. In other words, protect the body from those who try to damage it. Though there needs to be a valid reason.

]]> By: Siva http://pualifestyle.com/blog/is-revenge-good-or-bad/comment-page-1/#comment-2621 Siva Tue, 16 Jun 2009 10:48:54 +0000 http://pualifestyle.com/blog/?p=1895#comment-2621 My fahter always taught me to make sure that others knew not to mess with you. I think this is great advice. I also agree that oneness if a very important aspect of any group. But I am not sure what you mean by "act against those that act against oneness." This thinking may be a little radical to me. It reminds me of Vicarious Retribution. My fahter always taught me to make sure that others knew not to mess with you. I think this is great advice. I also agree that oneness if a very important aspect of any group.

But I am not sure what you mean by “act against those that act against oneness.” This thinking may be a little radical to me. It reminds me of Vicarious Retribution.

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