By Daniel Becerra

“…The mouth speaks of what fills the heart.” – Matthew 12:34, The Bible

The Bible tells in the book of Matthew that as Jesus went recruiting his disciples, it took no more than three words to get his followers. “You, follow me”. And so they followed. Now, isn’t that short? When was the last time you used three words on somebody to get them to take action? Think of kids or even you three or four years ago (or even now). Somebody would begin talking to me and after two minutes, I would say ‘How long will this last!?’. Do you remember that? When you felt adults took all the time of the world to tell you something that they could have told you in two minutes… do you remember that? I certainly do. Funny thing is that as I’m growing into an adult, I too tend to make things complicated. I too tend to say unnecessary things to convey something. Though I’m happy to say it’s certainly less than before, I still need to work on it a bit, and don’t we all!? Einstein had it right when he said “any intelligent fool can make things bigger and more complex, but it takes a touch of genius to move in the opposite direction”.

Say a Lot and Talk Little

Your goal ought to be to say a lot and talk little, not talk a lot and say little. Your goal is to be precise enough to drive them to action. Long gone are the days where you can afford to waste time. You only get to make a first impression once and you gotta make sure you don’t screw up. For instance, you’re invited to a meeting, a conference, or a panel, and you’re asked for your opinion. Right there lies a tremendous opportunity for you to grow your business, network, or meeting someone that can change your life and if I was you, I wouldn’t mess with it. What would you do? Mumble through and give an overused, phony opinion or will you speak passionately and confidently while you let the best of your wisdom come out? It’s a simple concept – you need to be able to say a lot by talking little, and not the other way around. When you meet that good looking girl, you want to be able to convey the best of your personality in few words rather than telling the whole story. When you say “Come over here” you’re communicating more than just wanting her to get closer to you. Depending on how you say it, you could communicate dominance and strength or you can communicate insecurity and weakness.

Taking out the clutter

Almost two years ago I introduced a friend of mine to sales and he in his eagerness to learn, bought a voice recorder and recorded my presentation. To my fortune, that day I made two huge sales right in front of him and I was so proud of myself that I couldn’t wait to listen to the recording and study it. My pride didn’t last long as I began listening because soon enough those annoying “Umms” and “Ahh” and “ehhh” and “something like that’s” were there. Horrible. I’m asking you to become conscious of the words you throw. If you catch yourself saying “Umm”, stop, think over what you will say and then say it. Do not speak until you clearly know what you will say. Don’t feel alone on this, I used to (and still struggle not to) make this mistake all the time, just look at my videos and you’ll notice.

But clutter doesn’t only mean “umms” and “kindas”, it also means all the unnecessary words you throw around. Now it’s not just a matter of annoying noises, but a matter of preparation. Will Smith has a great quote “Always be prepared, so you don’t HAVE to get prepared”. This means, WRITE down your questions, edit them, rehearse them, and then rehearse them again. Feeling lazy to do that? That may just mean you don’t want it bad enough. Writing and editing this series of articles alone has taken me over 48 hours. I have to be sure I communicate the point across with accuracy – without boring people out of their mind.

Profoundness

“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.” – Lao Tzu

One of my favorite speakers of all times is the legendary Jim Rohn; his thoughtfulness and fatherly love is shown in simple statements. Statements such as “It’s not so much what I’m earning here, it’s what I’m learning here. It’s not so much what I’m getting here, it’s what I’m becoming’. You can actually watch him explain that here. It takes a lot of thoughtfulness and passion to say such sophisticated statements. It also takes a lot of study. The ideas don’t appear out of the blue, they are collected through a lot of reading and writing (Are you reading at least one book per month?) Learning to inspire is by far one of the best paying skills in today’s market and it will be for a long time. Steve Pavlina is another guy who is thoughtful and profound in his statements. Just look at their success today. Profoundness is not easy to reach, but the results are far more worth than the effort made.

Faith and Belief

Now, please, do not misunderstand. You do not have to be Jim Rohn-like-profound. I use the word ‘profoundness’ but it can be changed by ‘thought-provoking’ or ‘act-provoking’. Jesus’ disciples were so inspired by His teachings and actions that they spread his word after His death, and what a great job did they do! How? They believed. You don’t have to be super profound, but you DO have to believe. Nothing in the world can make up for real, substantial belief. If you really believe it, it shows. It is ridiculous to communicate something you don’t believe in. Just like not all the training in the world will help you reach fulfilling success unless you believe in what you do; not every tone and word in the world will help you to communicate unless you believe in what you say. Sure, you can get away with it for a bit, but once the lie is uncovered, you’re done.

There is not one specific trait for profoundness. It could be sweet as if it came from a little girl’s unconditional love or it can come from a professor who uses coffee and cups to explain life’s meaning.

Voice Inflection

“The sound of the human voice betrays the speaker, for the sound comes from the soul, while words fly off the tongue.” – Unknown

How often do you think about the sound of your voice? Let me tell you, not enough. Just like the belief and the words matter, the inflection in your voice also matters. It’s one of those things we all need to work a little on. Your voice is important. It can bring people closer to you or drive them far away. Yes, it is important. REALLY important. Think of the last time someone’s voice annoyed you so much, you just couldn’t wait to get away from that person. See how important voice is now? With your voice, you can bring people up or bring them down. And again, there is no secret formula. Speaking loud will not bring them up or speaking low will not bring them low. You can whisper and give people something to ponder for the rest of their lives – so drop that non-sense.

The secret to effectiveness is to speak from your heart. Immerse in your feelings and speak from your heart. Let the best of you take over and fear nothing. It can come in a soft-spoken manner or in a loud exclamation. The result is the same – others taking action. The biggest challenge is not to ‘learn’ to speak from your heart, but rather, to un-learn the need to hide what you really want. If it took you years to shut everything you wanted to say, why not take a  bit to unlearn it?

Emphasize the right words

The passion has to be found in your speaking and therefor certain words need to be emphasized. The ‘punch line’ as it’s called is critical. For instance, I have this line I usually throw “I’d be a great boyfriend, I think“. And when I say “I think” I throw a little funny tone. This humorous statement is much more powerful than “I think I’d be a great boyfriend”. The great comedian Henny Youngman became famous with his punchline “Take my wife, please“. It wasn’t “Please, take my wife”. Out of all things to be lazy about… it should not be language. For – as I said before – they can work miracles.

So practice, practice now. Start recording your voice and go crazy. Sing, recite and say the weirdest things you wouldn’t dare to say in front of others. Do it all while in solitude. I record myself several times before I throw a new line. I recently have adapted the whole ‘Heyey! Giiirl!’ and the responses are mind-blogging. I got it from Will Smith (from the famous Fresh Prince), but if you know me (and my accent) you can only imagine how the combination of that tone and my accent would sound. Record yourself reading. Record yourself speaking. Record yourself modifying your voice. It will feel like a waste of time at the beginning, BUT if you practice for at least 30 minutes weekly, it WILL pay off.

A Final Note

Learning to say a lot while speaking little is one those benefits experts talk about when they say ‘work on yourself’. It’s one of those untangible things that really make a difference wherever you go.  Just really think about it – in every ocassion that you speak or act, there lies an opportunity to get noticed. Every single statement you make could have a tremendous impact in people’s lives. I would want that, wouldn’t you?

Have you ever gone up to a random person, just to simply talk to them? It’s amazing and I love the feeling of meeting someone new. Everyone has a unique story and identity that makes them who they are. You could meet them at any point in your life, but why right then, right now? Did I make a positive impression in their life? I sure hope so. That is my goal everytime I meet someone is to leave them better off than when I found them.

I love the feeling when two people connect. There’s no bitchy attitudes like at the clubs. Most girls are pretty friendly when you talk to them. Connect as a person, be true to yourself and your identity. There’s no smoke and mirrors, there’s nothing to hide. Just be a sociable person and people will be drawn into your life.

Today I met Katie (Above right), from the International Play Association & Play Around The World (UofA Student Group). She was promoting unique and different ways to play, and develop children, communities, and families. The activity they had set up was for children to build an igloo with ice sculpting tools. It was really adorable to see all the kids interacting and developing this igloo together. She was helping the kids meet each other and work together and it was such a great moment to be a part of. It was unique and exciting because kids don’t normally get to do these things.

She asked if I could email those pictures to her and I agreed enthusiastically. I would love the chance to be able to promote such a great cause! I am happy whenever my passion for photography can be used to influence others in a positive way. I feel a lot better knowing that I am helping other people out.

My point is that people are naturally sociable and eager to tell their story. We are a people that enjoy interacting and talking. Often people get so trapped in their own world that they don’t stop to help random strangers. It feels good, so I encourage everyone to just get out there and chat up anyone around you. I think you’ll get a positive reward/experience from it at the very least.

- Calvin

http://www.physedandrec.ualberta.ca/play.cfm

http://www.ipacanada.org/home.htm

P.S. Enjoy this short video

Developing an Enlightened Lifestyle takes time and dedication. It is infinite, there is no physical boundary or cut off point, dividing ‘enlightened’ from ‘average’. Only you as a person can know when you have or haven’t achieved this zonal stage, and once you have, you’ll understand that it requires constant maintenance.

However, how do you get there? What is this perilous journey like? Where and what is ‘there’? And why do you want it?

These are all questions that everyone asks themselves, and most begin the journey without answering them first, resulting in a lack of dedication and an early exit after having deemed failure. Without clear intentions, goals and ambitions, it is impossible to achieve. How can you score a goal in football without a goal? You’ll end up playing for ever until one is made.

Yet perhaps the most important, and difficult question to answer is, where do I begin?

At the beginning. Standard, simple answer that gives no guidance what so ever. But it’s true, ask yourself this, what made you want to change in the first place? Why do you want to change your lifestyle? What brought you here? For me, it was a lack of satisfaction with my current lifestyle, brought to light by the lifestylechallenge 2.0. Intelligence, sociability, health and well being, spirituality amongst a whole host of other factors, all of which I knew I could improve. I wasn’t on par.

By answering this, you have already covered many bases. You have your motives (for me it’s improving these areas of my life because I feel unsatisfied), and you have your goals (Increased intelligence…). However this may in fact leave you feeling that this is even more daunting than previously perceived. Problems tend to stack up, almost like in a snowballing effect as your mind links you from one thing to another with effortless ease.

For example, you may have poor health, so people see you as less attractive, which knocks your confidence, leading to pessimism, in turn depression, combined with anger, resulting in monetary instability, giving you stress…

It’s endless. Yet the brilliant thing is, just like how one problem leads to another, it’s exactly the same with solutions. Every improvement and solution has a multiplier effect, benefiting different areas of your life you may never have imagined it too. For example, you might have bad skin. Your doctor tells you to stay outside for 20 minutes a day, so that UV light develops more vitamin D to combat what ever it is. What they don’t tell you is that on the top of your head are sun ‘receptors’ that convert UV into Serotonin, the natural drug that modulates anger and sexuality. In laymen terms: the natural happiness drug. You become happier, less depressed, more optimistic, and more attractive (also resulting from gaining a tan). Transmission Mechanism…

Still, where do you start? What should your first goal be?

Well, why does everyone insist on starting with one thing? Rather than step forward, why not jump? Remember, it’s all about the multiplier effect, and jumping is going to take you much further than stepping. So my advice is this: start with two things.

Make them basic, achievable, goals that can be completed in the short term, but have long term consequences. Now, we’re discussing how to begin to develop an Enlightened Lifestyle. What would be two small goals to get you started on this path?

Mine were as follows:

1) Converse at a greater-than-normal level with everyone I interact with.
2) Greet everyone who makes eye-contact and is within audible range verbally.

My main motive behind this?

To meet new people, converse with them and learn.

Starting at the beginning should be about going down below the surface of things to the core of humanity. To me, this is communication. What sets us most apart from other living things? Our ability to communicate and think consciously. This is one of the first things we learn to do as a child, but yet, arguably, as we grow our skill and learning ability actually decreases. Where did approach anxiety come from? Fear, social and media conditioning.

Saying ‘Hi’ to people isn’t difficult, take a guess at how many times you’ve said the word. Probably in the tens or hundreds of thousands. It’s the perceived difficulty that one has to surpass. And that’s why it’s important to keep it simple. Say ‘Hi’ to everyone that makes eye contact.

You can learn and read all you want, be up-to-date on the world economy, cultural views, revolutionary technologies, cures and relationship advice. But all of it is useless until you can communicate. Who’s ever heard of a 100% communication-less relationship? And yes, I did just make up that word, but you still understood me, that’s the power of communication

That’s not to say you shouldn’t do all of those things, but firstly, learn to communicate. Once you have engaged in your first conversation, that’s when you start learning.

People are fascinating, you’ll find that you can learn so much more from conversation in 1 minute than a book in 10 (depending of course on the quality of both the book and conversation). When you converse with others, you learn about yourself, and the more you understand yourself, the more jumps you can take towards an Enlightened Lifestyle as these understandings are your foundations, your building blocks.

Yet, before I conclude this short How-To, I’d like to finish off on something very important: Taking it one day at a time. Making goals 3 years in the future is useless most of the time. You lose sight very quickly and give up. You may find that the method you use isn’t right for you, so live in the present. Take every moment as it comes, and use it to your full potential.

How To Start From Scratch

In one sentence:

Start communicating more.

Words: Tom Church, the creator of marketing website Flabble

By Kris Hansen

I am obsessed with human interaction. As a pick-up artist, I get the opportunity to meet and interact with an insane amount of people. As a salesman, I get to meet even more, and many of those people share my interests, hobbies and outlook on life. Even as a gamer, I find that the games that are most spectacular are those in which the players interact within the framework of the game in new and interesting ways.

But my all-time favorite form of human interaction is the long-term relationship. It’s through a framework of love, trust and closeness that we best gain an appreciation for another person. When you’re out for your tenth coffee date, you will learn things about someone that he or she would not tell someone on first meeting them. When you’ve been friends for years, people feel comfortable sharing even the most personal of things. When everyone is naked, there is nowhere to hide your secrets (that aren’t terribly uncomfortable). Long-term relationships provide you the chance to get to know someone in ways other interactions barely hint at. But there is an art to building a healthy relationship, and failure in relationships can be devastating for everyone. This is how you can keep your relationships as healthy and manageable as possible.

State Your Expectations

I cannot stress this enough, and it is the basis for all relationship management. If you want something from a relationship, you need to make that desire very clear from the outset. Vaguery and ambiguity are the enemies of communication, and communication is vital to any relationship. Are you looking for a friend? Are you seeking a one-night stand? Are you looking for a long-term partner? Do you just want to party with someone new and exciting?

Whatever you want from your relationship, you need to make it clear at the outset. Understanding this will save you a lot of heartache in the future, as you search for answers to questions like “What exactly are we?” and the only answer you have is “A fling, sweetie. Go back to sleep.”

And there should be no room for miscommunication here. If you’re starting a long-term romantic relationship with someone, you will need to be very clear. In my own experience, I have to state “I don’t do exclusive relationships. If you’re with me, you are free to be with whoever else you want. But I have that same freedom.” It’s the sort of thing that sounds like it would result in losing a lot of potential girlfriends. And to be honest, it does end up in my losing a lot of potential girlfriends. But the girls that are not comfortable with an open relationship with me are not the girls I want to date. If a problem comes up, it comes up at the outset and you can judge for yourself whether the relationship is worth the sacrifice of your desires.

Be Honest

The urge is to gloss over the bits of your past that will not be particularly flattering. For instance, I’ve been homeless. That’s not something that comes up very often, and it almost never comes up when I’m trying to get to know someone new. But if someone asks or the subject should mysteriously come up, I’ll say it.

There’s good reason for that. If the person I’m talking to is making comments about homeless people that I find distasteful, I have to make it clear that they are also insulting me. Being honest about it gives them fair warning. It also gives them notice that I will be getting up and going elsewhere if they continue. More, it shows that I am not afraid of my past, I’m not letting it rule me, and I’ll talk about it.

Most examples aren’t quite so extreme. For the players in my audience, I say “I don’t think love is something you should keep to yourself. I think you should share it.” To the folks looking for one-night stands, I say “Hey, I’m not looking for anything serious, just looking to have some fun with someone cool. No strings.” To the people looking for serious partners, I say “Hey, I’m not saying I want something serious right away, but if it turns into something it turns into something.” For those looking for more friends, I say “We should party more. Is there a way I can get a hold of you?” By not setting yourself up to be something you’re not, you’re showing respect, confidence and value.

Continue Communication

In longer-term relationships, people tend to forget to keep the above points in mind past a certain point. Needs and desires change over time, and if you don’t keep your partner updated when things change, he or she cannot be expected to know you are now comfortable with something you weren’t previously, or you’ve become uncomfortable with something you approved of in the past. This also provides a meter-stick for whether or not relationships should continue. If you want a relationship to end on relatively good terms, break it off when your needs and your partner’s needs no longer match up. Agree that your needs are of equal importance and that each of you should find partners that better suit those needs. Now, this isn’t always going to end in nice, drama-free break-ups, but it will increase the chances that you and your new ex can still get along.

Continued communication also allows you to show your partner areas of your relationship you’re interested in experimenting in. Even if this is as simple as inviting a friend over to play video games, you’re entering into new territory. Does your buddy hump bodies when he’s made a kill? If so, he won’t be playing at my place. ^_^ Opening into new territory allows your relationship to grow and change, keeping it dynamic and interesting. Communicating your changing desires from a relationship is also what allows you to move from a friendly place to a sexual place with ease. If your friends are used to you escalating the nature of your relationships, they won’t find it out of place that you’re interested in moving into a romantic or sexual place with them (excepting only that their stated desires do not include romantic or sexual escalation).

Conflict Resolution

So your partner wants to introduce scat to your bed-time play. Or your friend wants to initiate sexuality into your relationship. Or your spouse wants to open your relationship. When your partner’s needs and yours no longer match up, there are three options: sacrifice, compromise or break up. How you choose between these options is left to your discretion.

Sacrifice is exactly as it sounds. You have the option of giving up your desire for the desire of your partner. Sometimes this is the best choice, especially when sacrifice would include things like “Wear a goddamn condom”or“I need to marry a person who follows Religion X.” You will need to weigh the nature of the sacrifice. Don’t think about how much you like your partner; do not think about your partner at all. Think about yourself, and consider: If you make this choice, will you be bitter, resentful, or angry? If you make this choice, can you be happy? Will you? For instance, I would not be happy as a married man. If one of my girlfriends suggests she will need to be married to be happy with me, this is not a sacrifice I could personally make. However, while I don’t really like the idea of Golden Showers, it is something I would most likely a sacrifice I’d be willing to make for someone I cared about.

Compromise is something that can be done when neither party wants to give up everything, but there is some possible middle ground that could be reached. Let’s say Lucy likes apple pie, and Natalie likes pumpkin pie. Lucy would like apple pie every month, but Natalie wants to have pumpkin pie every two months. So they decide they’ll go once every three months, and make neither of them perfectly happy, but both of them moderately happy. That’s a pretty outlandish example, but it illustrates the point. For compromise to work, both parties have to get something, and both parties need to receive something. If Lucy wanted apple pie every month and would not be happy without it, then compromise would not be possible. Creating compromise can solve problems where the outcome is not something as dire as continued happiness or health.

Breaking up is something no one ever _wants_ to do, but a lot of times it’s necessary. People tend to let bad relationships go on for far too long, even though it’s clear that the partners will never be happy with one another. When conflicts in expectations are so dire that they threaten a partner’s long-term happiness, and no compromise or sacrifice will suffice, the relationship should end. Break-ups should be about continued health and happiness. It is only when you allow a relationship to go on without resolving other conflicts effectively that relationships fail. Healthy relationships end, unhealthy relationships are four quarts of fail in a two quart pail. But hopefully, if you state your intentions clearly, you’re honest, you continue communication into your relationship and you deal with conflicts effectively, your relationships will never fail.

In the hopes we’ll be friends forever,

Namaste,

Words: Kris Hansen.

Photography: Calvin Wallace. You can check more of his art in his page.

By Daniel Becerra

It was my second day of class at  university. I had already talked to some people, nothing special. I decided to take a seat near a tree and begin reading a book. I sat down on the shade and I let myself fall immerse into countless captivating lines and soon enough, I found myself not thinking about anything, the only thing I was focused on was that which my eyes were looking at: The Book. It’s a rare feeling. A feeling in which everything around you looks beautiful. Everything around you seems to have more meaning than the usual. All of the sudden you can notice all the little details in a woman’s laugh, in her smile, in her walk. It is indeed a rare feeling and I don’t know how other way I can put it. Anyway, I sat down there for a good 45 minutes and I seemed to have achieved a piece of mind, a genuine smile and a positive – although seemingly neutral – energy. Something amazing happened at that moment. I stood up and I looked around and I saw what I hadn’t seen had I not been in the state I was. I saw a bunch of beautiful women sitting alone. They were all approachable. And I knew it. I knew it. I sensed it. But I tell you this – and I can put my word on it – had I not been in that state, I would’ve thought they were not approachable.

I headed toward a petite red-headed wearing sunglasses, sitting on a bench just looking around. Empty your head.. I didn’t think. I didn’t think about what I would say or how she would react. I knew from the moment that I walked that I wasn’t going to “attract” or set “comfort”, but rather I was going there to share a moment with another human being. I was going there to sit a doing simple thing in an extraordinary way. There lies the success of everything: Doing simple things in an extraordinary way. I was going to identify with a stranger. And I knew that in order to identify with someone I need not the words, but the focus on offering what she wanted. I’ve been sharing this secret with a few people, but it wasn’t until that day that I felt the power of it – the secret is this: You can get enough of what you want if you only helped others get what they want. And often what they want is the real you. If they don’t want the real you, they want something that isn’t you. Run away.

Daniel: Hey, do you mind if… I sit here with you?
Petite Cutie: Sure
Daniel: Yeah. After all, it’s much better to waste time with someone than wasting time alone!
Petite Cutie: [giggles]
Daniel: Notice I said “wasting” time. Alright?
Petite Cutie: [giggles] I know. My break is too long. Are you on break too?
Daniel: Yes, I am.
Petite Cutie: How much time you got?
Daniel: You and I got about 30 more minutes for conversation.
Petite Cutie: You and I? You like to assume, don’t you? (Oh, a tester!)
Daniel: What would life be if we didn’t assume?
Petite Cutie: You sound like a geek.
Daniel: I’m the sexiest geek you’ll run into.
Petite Cutie: [Loud Laugh] (Her laugh is cute)
Daniel: C’mon. Let’s walk around.

It takes more than smooth talk to be able to identify with someone. Remember that when we identify with someone we can say a great deal without saying very much. But if you don’t identify, you can say all you want and still part away like strangers. How many times did you “game” someone and soon enough you weren’t able to reach that person. You want to know how to tell if you’re good identifying with people? Look at your relationships with the people you live with. Not your closest friends, it’s obvious that you identify with them, that’s why you’re friends. But look at the people you live with. Have you ever wondered how many families live together their entire lives but they don’t know each other at all? You want to know how you ARE identified with someone? I can tell you how. Sit next to someone in silence, and check if the situation is awkward. If it’s not awkward, then you’re identified with that person. Notice how when you sit next to your best friend, you can be in total silence and not feel awkward.

You may ask, how do I identify with someone?. I’m a believer that if you want to identify with others, you must get them to open themselves up to you. And in order to do that, you must first open up to THEM. And I tell you there are many ways to open up to people. And in my experience, the most powerful of them is the tool of humor and laughter. Being able to smile a little at yourself and getting others to do the same is the most powerful way to get them to identify with you. Setting that atmosphere is a crucial expect, the rest is being real. Don’t be a I-can-do-it-all-ass when you talk to a woman, be simply real. Some of the guys that I’ve seen to be most successful in Night Clubs have a great sense of humor about themselves and getting the girls to laugh at themselves. For example: Calling her a dork, or a little sister and so on. Once the atmosphere is set, it is easy to escalate sexually. I mean, easy.

When you’re talking with women. Don’t be a smart ass, be down to to earth. Don’t be an I-can-do-it-all, be real. Don’t give her a lecture on self-development because that’s just knowledge. Wisdom is doing it. For instance, you know that laughter is good for the soul. Therefore make her laugh. But you also know that there is a difference between sense of humor and a dancing monkey. Knowledge is knowing, wisdom is applying (Thank You Bruce Lee) Are you ready to be wise?

A Final Note

You can meet women in every corner of the planet. But in order to do that, you must do simple things in extraordinary ways. Don’t practice just pick up. Practice everything. Relax and achieve a peace of mind. Don’t focus on getting what you want out of them, but rather what could you give to them. They are out there. They are in parks, coffee shops, in a bookstore, in school, at work. Everywhere. It doesn’t take a big man to get a woman, it takes a real man. To become real, you must be real with yourself. You must learn to recognize yourself. Watch your thoughts, watch your emotions, watch your body movement. Become aware of all of them and once you know them. accept that they are yours. And if you don’t want to accept them, then change them. And once you change them, accept them.

Words: Daniel Becerra. You can follow him on Twitter and Facebook

Photography: Calvin Wallace. You can check more of his art in his page.