By Hector Mesa

You will be faced with a lot of things in life. The good, the bad, and the “too good to be true”.

One day, you will buy a home. What’s the best you can afford? What necessities do you need? How much of a loan do you need to borrow? Who’s the best Realtor? One day, you will contribute to your 401(k). Does your company have a good employer match? How much should you put? What do you want from retirement? Do you want wealth? Can you trust the numerous stocks provided by the company? One day, you may get married. If you do, will you have kids? Can you trust your wife. Can she trust you? Will the marriage last? Is there a prenuptial involved?

Life is full of tough decisions. That’s a fact. But one thing that no one else will tell you is that the decisions that are not made are the ones that end up ruining you.

You’ve heard the phrase “There is no easy way out”. It is too true. Whatever you do in life, it will not be easy. If you’ve learned anything from your PUA experiences in the past, you know how difficult the process was. Hundreds of turn downs, a lot of numbers, a total transformation of self. None of that was easy.

There were no shortcuts. There were no “easy lays” when you just started. (Those that seemed easy most likely led to possible STDs and Psycho women needing emotional closure. True or not?). Everything you worked on yourself, you gave your all. You didn’t chicken your way through M3 models and natural game and NLP and all that wonderful stuff.

Many quit along the way. Whether it came down to self-faith, struggle with oneself, or just a general disinterest, they still quit. That just means that some weren’t ready for change. They wanted the easy way out, and the easy way out never pays off.

We, as humans, are wired to want immediate gratification. We want what we want, when we want it, as soon as possible. This leads to smart, slick, evil marketing geniuses to make special plans that promise hassle-free programs for their products (Read: Insurance agencies and Credit-Card Companies, both run by real-life supervillains.). The “Easy way out” in these cases, lead to millions of people going bankrupt and/or in debt up to their noses, and no way out.

This applies with women as well. If a woman gives you sex without testing and such, you will not feel as if it was worth anything. Sure, you feel good and bust a nut on a cute girl, but that’s it. The action. Devoid of any romance, emotion, or minimal effort. If you had a long term girlfriend, and had sex with her, you would feel much more connected, due to the time it took for you two to grow and connect with each other.

Guess what. That takes time and effort. The “Easy way out” would be a meaningless one-night stand, that might give you a temporary high, but, unless you’re someone who has sex every night – you will regret not having made a connection, and it affects you. You feel “cheap” and used.

Persevere

What you are going through may seem impossible to get through. If it seems tough, ride with it. If you see the easy solution at your grasp, punch it away. It’s a rigged time-bomb ready to explode. Look for the best  solution. It might not be the one you like, but it will be the best decision. Sometimes you don’t get to choose what you want to do, but rather what you ought to do. With enoughs “off to do’s” then you will enjoy even more “love to do’s”

Example: You lost a good amount of money on a bad horse racing bet. You’re near broke. The easy way out would be to bet again and win the money back. Of course, that could take three to five tries, and each horse race has a 1/nth chance of victory (N being the amount of horses in said race). The best solution would be to quit horse racing, get a decent job, and work hard and intelligently to get your money back and grow soon after that.

Apply the horse example to every “Possible easy way out” scenario. Do what you ought to do, not what’s easy. Doing what’s easy is worse than doing what sucks, I assure you.

Words: Hector Mesa