In times of testing things quickly spin out of control. All of us have moments in our lives where pain and suffering occurs, perhaps not physically but mentally, psychologically, spiritually, financially or socially. Our minds get buried in the depths of turmoil, and reactionary negative emotions are created. Sadness and depression can follow suit, like two lurking devils ready to jump. When they do, it’s difficult to shake them off, or even to create the energy in order to at least try. This blog post is about taking a time out, observing the current depressive situation and creating the energy to turn things around for the better.

At the lowest of moments, you may be feeling that there is a lack of love in your life. Yet this is not true. There is love everywhere. Everything and everyone shares love for you: Your parents (dead or alive), your siblings, your friends, even the PUAlifestyle team wants to share love with you. The paintings and the pictures radiate love, the carpets and the curtains have love for you. Love is everywhere, you only have to look hard enough. We all need love, we all want it. Some may deny it but deep down there is unsettling unrest. When feeling depression, recognize this desire and embrace it. Take this moment to breathe in, to surface and to watch the sun rise with all it’s glory, enlightening the love available for you to embrace and to return. You are loved, remember that.

Recognize your achievements. Often when everything around us goes wrong, it feels horrible. It’s like you’ve done nothing right, that nothing ever goes the way you want it, nor even the way it should. All efforts to rectify the situation either fail or make it worse, and it’s not just a hole you’re digging, it’s a cavern. Once again however, think about the following. This very second you are reading fluent English. There’s a success. You are reading it off a computer, so you have capital, on the internet thus access to a second world full of information. There are two more achievements. You have survived in a world full of ups and downs, you have overcome every obstacle thrown at you to date. You have smashed through every wall of resistance to get to where you are now standing. That is a mighty success.

You are educated, with the ability to communicate, befriend, socialize, learn, love and be loved. You are beautiful both in physical form and mentally. You deserve to be in this world. You belong here. Achievements are littered across your past, but we tend to ignore them, searching instead for a distant goal that is quite hazy even to the wisest of men. When feeling low, lift your head and start recognizing your journey thus far. It hasn’t been easy; nothing is easy, but it has happened nevertheless. You have achieved a great deal! Give yourself a pat on the back, smile and take the time now to appreciate and be thankful for the amount of hard work you have already given. By reading this now, you are a winner. Opportunity awaits winners.

As a winner you belong in this beautiful world. You should be here, you ought to be here, you deserve to be here. To wake up everyday to see the sun rise into the vast open skies is a privilege given to you, it’s colors radiating across the cities and fields. So create a sense of belonging, because without it you will drift. Understand that as a human, a beautiful creature either in Gods view or as a result of evolution you are wonderful and belong to the tribe. This tribe is wherever you seek it. They are in the offices, the schools, the parks, the libraries, the clubs and even the dumps. We are all part of a tribe, and this tribe is interdependent with the horn of plenty.

Life; this force of great joy and perceived evil, will throw many hardships at you, some of which you may be feeling now. These hardships most often come in the absence of things: money, possessions, family, friends, work, a spouse and pleasure. For a happy life, one where you make balanced choices that are central to your core you must take all of these on board. When lacking money, look at what you do have. Do you have a family? Do you have a friend? Do you have work? Do you have a spouse? And then look at your abilities: Are you able to create a family? Are you friendly? Can you work? Are you able to love, and be loved?

Every characteristic that you already inhabit will help you stay balanced during times of hardship. Friends will help, family will love and pleasure will be found in different ways. There are always solutions to every problem, and things are only a problem if you look at them as such. Remember that everything ALWAYS turns out OK. Take comfort in your strength. You have already climbed each and every hurdle that life has tested you with. You have become stronger with each falling, you have got back up again, and will continue to do so because you are a survivor, you belong here in this world, you deserve to see it’s beauty and magnificence, you deserve to be here.

This hardship, and everyone after it will only make you stronger.  As a person, as a friend, as a lover, a parent and a child you will grow. With desire comes the ability to create belief and faith. These three combine to develop an unbeatable force that will lift you out of any crash, bust, low or depression to soar high into the skies of opportunity. Here you can find your passion, your call for life and it’s purpose.

Ask not what your purpose is in life, but what life’s purpose is for you.