When most people think of revenge, they think "Eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth. If you mess with me, it's a must that I mess with you". However, that is not the entirety of revenge.
If someone disrespects you, and you let it happen, you not only "avoid the path of violence", but the person who disrespects you will soon rationalize that they can disrespect EVERYONE, and thus, make that person worse, and transform you into a walking doormat of a loser.
Contrarily, if you put that person in their place when they disrespect you, you set a boundary for that person on they way they treat you, AND others, and at the same time, get praise for standing up to a disruptive element in society.
If you allow negative people into your life, they will begin to influence you for the worse
If you allow positive people into your life, they will influence you for the better.
It's that simple. None of us invented this fact of life. It just is.
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Take for example a woman that I was dating not too long ago. I invested time on this girl. I spoke to her about being always prepared, about realizing that our actions always have consequences that we are not even aware on, about leadership and love. I spent time with her when she was going through bad ones. I made her smile through it. We had a great time together, full of humor and good experiences. But in the moment I needed her the most (right after receiving some of the worst news I have received) she consciously decided to get drunk and completely ignore me. That’s pure negligence and stupidity. After that, not only I couldn’t trust her, but I couldn’t respect her either. She called me the next day apologizing as she did once before, but this time I wouldn’t take it. I wasn’t an asshole, but I told her the truth “I don’t trust you nor respect you. You’ve, indeed, disappointed me”. She has been calling a couple of times but I never pick her calls no more. She texts me asking to talk or get together, I never respond.
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Would any of you guys want that type of girl as a GF? That same kind of girl, if you were married to her, would end up getting trashed at happy hour instead of caring for the child you two might have. Who would want a wife like THAT? If Dan would have done nothing, the same stuff would have continued, she would become worse, and Dan would have a small resentment that builds into a need for revenge.
As much as we all wish everyone was kind and loving, the unfortunate fact is about 75-80% of people (Fair estimate) wish to harm others to move ahead (Which is why the other 20% consist of the most successful people on Earth. Coincidence?)
So, is revenge good, or bad?
Ultimately, revenge is revenge. It can be good. It can be bad. If revenge is undertaken for the right reasons, then so be it. If it's taken under the wrong reasons, then so be it. Remember the consequences associate with each, and see if it's worth it.
BUT, If someone disrespects you, even unintentionally, set that person straight, or EVERYONE involved suffers, especially YOU.