Balanced vs Unbalanced Growth
I thought a good way to begin my contributors section would be to discuss different theories of growth and development.
Scenario
I want to illustrate firstly, how self-development is integrated within a multitude of factors, including Pick-Up skills.
Let's say you want to go to the Gym:
> You want to go to the gym
> You must pay for the gym
> You need money
> You have to get a job
> You need intelligence, language, and social skills
Once you get a job:
> You need incentives to stay
> You need dedication otherwise you will get fired
> Sleep helps you maintain a positive frame
> Embracing Spirituality will help
Social Skills:
> These include appearances
> You go to the gym
> You must eat for recovery
> Good nutrition is vital
> Adequate hydration is fundamental
> This benefits appearances too.
Right, that's enough of that. One could go on forever. What I am trying to show, is that everything is tied in with eachother. Therefore, when looking at self-development, whether it's to get girls, to get more self-esteem, to get a better job, to improve in a specific area, there are other linkages one must take into account.
The first theory is that of a Balanced Growth View.
This is when the person in question i.e. you or me, invests (through time, effort and money) into every sector of himself. This means he spends roughly equal amounts of energy improving his mental side (intelligence), physical, spiritual, monetary and what ever sections you can think of for yourself. (A good excercise would be to try and think of how many different sides there are to you personally).
The benefits behind this, are that each improvement will subsequently help other areas. For example, going for a run will provide brain stimulation to help with learning or doing yoga will increase your chance of getting a new job 'cos you can cope with the stress.
However, by investing into each and every area, this takes A LOT of time, effort and money (depending on methods used). This is why you may be a bit daunted by self-development. Everyone already has lives packed and really busy, where will one be able to fit all this stuff in? The resources required are vast and possibly unatainable. Also, you may be wasting your time in that you are investing into sections of your personality that you do not enjoy. For example, you might start doing some Sudoko's every day to try and improve your maths. But you don't enjoy maths.
Unbalanced Growth View
This opposing view looks at investing into specific areas of oneself. However, the areas are chosen for their linkages. It is import to invest time, effort and money into areas that will benefit you most, areas that will gain the most total growth over the greatest area. In other words, take into account linkages.
For instance, you want to get better at approaching people and girls. The first initial answer would seemingly be to go out and just practise. However, this means that you will ONLY be good at approaching. Going to the gym seems like a strange option, but check out this multiplier effect:
> You go to the gym
> You become more muscular and gain better posture combined with fitness.
> You become more confident in yourself.
> Whilst in the gym, you see a girl working out
> You approach, you're already feeling confident due to your good shape, and you don't have to talk for ages. Going back to your workout is a backup plan.
Thus, you have not only improved your health, confidence and body, but also you have achieved the goal of improving confidence of approaching. All this was achieved in the same amount of time.
Conclusion
In my opinion, it is better off to choose an unbalanced growth view. This requires less resources, and is easier to fit in with an already busy schedule. It is important however, to research before hand, which specific area has the most linkages, and will help you achieve the goals that you may have as quickly as possible.
Trying to improve everything is unattractive as it just sounds like so much effort. So, why not be smart about this and knock down two birds with one stone?
I hope you have found my first thread here to be interesting and thought provoking. Any comments on how I can improve, or if you want to slash into it then go ahead. Bruises always heal.
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