I have to admit it. I'm losing hair. It's a sad reality and up until a few months ago, few people noticed it. Mostly girls noticed it. They are the ones who pay attention to every little detail. It really used to bug me quite a bit when people would notice it, because let me tell you - it is not the most attractive thing in the world. I realize it's not use to get upset about it. It's something I can't control at the moment (remember you will never have complete control), so rather than whining about it, I choose to poke a bit of fun at myself, to inspire others to do the same. For instance, when I meet a girl and she notices it. I'll say:
1. Yeah. But I didn't notice it. They fell one at a time.
2. I wear great t-shirts with great designs because I know no one will say: Daniel, great hair! And... You DID look at my shirt first! (And they usually do)
This would have the girl and people not only laughing, but also letting themselves loose. They would feel in the company of a person that can actually open himself up without expecting others to open up. You see, some people easily open up to others. For others, it's not so easy. But begin learning this right now - if you want others to open, begin by opening up yourself to them first. Another example would be my height. For those of you who met me, you know I'm not the tallest dating/personal growth instructor. I'm quite short but I ain't telling you my height. So when I meet a girl I'll say: "The first thing I liked about you was your height. You're short. So we match". It usually gets more than a laugh.
If you're familiar with the concept of Cocky & Funny - which was originally brought up by David DeAngelo - then you will have a certain idea that humor is powerful. It wasn't David D who created this concept though, the concept has existed for a long time, therefore Cocky & Funny, or the power of humor is not a new concept. Make certain that I don't point out the former to bring down the guy (as a matter of fact, I have a tremendous amount of respect for him), but rather to show you that it doesn't take any super skill to master humor, or have a small sense of humor at the very least. Everybody has a sense of humor, if you don't use it, you may as well not have it.
Humor is not only attractive, it also has healing powers. Nothing like a good smile or a good laugh to get you out of a negative state. It goes further than that though. Humor is a key to enjoy life. If you can laugh at your own failures, then you can capitalize more on them. The job of a leader is to not only laugh at himself/herself, but to also inspire others to laugh a little at themselves. A great leader is the one who can make you smile at yourself and the one that makes you think "I can't believe I was whining about this tiny problem. Life is much better than that!" When you adapt the mentality of laughing a bit at yourself, all of the sudden you release stress. I was not feeling that great even after a very productive week. I had let external factors affect my internal game. Well, that happens to most of us. We shall strike though, for affecting the external reality with our internal game, and not the other way around.
Now, you don't have to be a comedian to be successful. You don't have to laugh all the time and be the center of the group to be great with women, but you have to be damn insensitive not to realize that a good smile or laugh can make that girl better, instead of bitter. And your job as a man, is to make people better. Tell me a better, cheaper way to make a person better or to create a good atmosphere than a good laugh! WOOOOHOOOHH! So right now, as you're reading this. Practice! Practice now! When you feel like laughing, let it out! Let it out! WOOOOHOOOH!
You, my friend, get this to your head. You don't have to be a great laugher or an incredibly funny person, but you shall know that humor is a very powerful tool for the mind, the soul and the heart. Therefore, I urge you to become a student of humor.
You can be a student of humor through reading, watching stand up comedians, or some hilarious TV shows. For example: Friends or the 70's show. Which reminds me, you know that guy Fez from the 70's show? Well, people often tell me I sound like him. I often reply to them "He is lucky to even sound like me!" Find situations to be able to laugh and smile at yourself. Laughing at yourself doesn't mean you like to fail or to be the point of everyone's laughter, but it means that for one, you capitalize on things that others wouldn't and two, you have more confidence than those who choose to get upset. Laugh. Laugh at your own frustrations. Laugh at your bad luck. Laugh at the fact that your girlfriend dumped you for being needy. Laugh at the fact that you wasted many years of your life chasing something not worth the effort. Laugh. Forever, keep a sense of humor. Keep a sense of humor specially about yourself and others will remember you forever.
There is no excuses not to learn humor. No excuses not to learn anything at all, really. The resources are out there for Garfield's sake, you thumsucker. You just need to use them. Alrighty. I hope you create a wonderful day. I hope that you make some people laugh or smile after you read this. Tomorrow I go back to University and I can not wait. Have a wonderful time, my family!
I'm not losing my hair. I'm donating it.
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