Being An Asshole

[icemanmrfreeze]

I did something I wasn't proud of before the Christmas break...My ex-gf had told me she didn't think things were going to work out between us, only two days before she said she wanted to work things out. I sent her a really mean email (because I was upset obviously) and said some horrible things that shock me to this day. I tried to apologize to her, but she told me to get lost. So I ended up sending her another one. This was all during the Christmas break....A month later I f-close her...Why? Because I'm an asshole...Girls don't put up with shit from nice guys...

Once upon a time I was a nice guy, but had people shit on me like it was going out of style...Then I realized something...People today aren't inherently virtuous, they're not worried about the greater good, helping their fellow man, the average dude is worried about himself. He doesn't give a shit about you, your hopes, dreams, or any of your pathetic problems. Of course people say things to appear like respectable human beings, but try putting the average guy in a situation where he has to put himself out for someone else...Not happening...

What I'm trying to get at is, I'm a big beleiver in survival of the fittest...Just live your life as if you expect people to break the rules! This way your ready for any asshole who comes your way, instead of getting caught off guard by some punk. It's kind of pessimistic at times, but I'm always anticipating the worst case scenario when it comes to everything

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What really happened was that you are controlling her emotions. A girl will fuck whether she is sad/angry/happy it doesn't matter as long as she is feeling emotions.

[Hector M.]

(Read Rant. I moved my response there).

[Mr.Orange]

I can speculate a few reasons why assholes get chicks.
1: Assholes approach and game girls all the time. I mean they are constantly trying to game girls. However, they usually come off as sexually charged and too forward. But sometimes they don't come off as too forward when a girl is in the mood. Either she has had a few drinks or she somehow got put into the sexual mood( either through a romance movie, dancing, another guy approaching her got her in the mood but didn't close her in any way). When the girl is in the mood then she wants guys to come up and act sexual towards her. It doesn't matter if they are being too forward it only matters that they are in the mood and looking for that kind of sexual connection. So, since Assholes approach so often, they are actually getting lucky with girls. They are there by chance at the exact moment that the girl is looking for sexual attention. They are playing slots. They put enough money into it and eventually they win something.


What I'm trying to get at is, I'm a big beleiver in survival of the fittest...Just live your life as if you expect people to break the rules! This way your ready for any asshole who comes your way, instead of getting caught off guard by some punk. It's kind of pessimistic at times, but I'm always anticipating the worst case scenario when it comes to everything[/quote]

2:You are playing their game and not yours.
There are no rules in the world for assholes. The only rules they go by is their rules. That's what makes them appealing. They will obviously be playing by their rules so what you have to do is to play by your own rules. Don't do what they do. Do what you do. Ignore them when they start doing the asshole thing and leave and start doing something that will make you happy. Assholes are emotionally draining if you abide by their needs. You need to ignore it at the first sign of it and change the subject to something positive. ex:
Ahole: So I get this chick on the dance floor and start rubbing my dick on her
Me: That reminds me Have you ever shaved your balls with a razor? It's really comfortable
Ahole: So like I was saying
Me: Alright, I'm just saying it was a good feeling I think I'm gonna do it from now on.

Forget the subjects that assholes bring up. I always find them boring and very pretentious. If you talk about a subject more interesting than the asshole than chances are you will drag the asshole into that conversation and before you know it, he's playing your game. So, it's not about battling the asshole for your survival, its about bringing him into you world with conversations that you want to have. If you are interesting enough, he will be listening to what you have to say more and soon you will be the Alpha or leader of the pack.