Lets start at Square 1

[The Doctor]

"You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy."-Jane Roberts

In this article I want to go to the root confidence, the heart of happiness, square one... our perception of ourselves. Most people in this community gurus included, start in the middle. They with teaching you things like alpha body language, to act unaffected etc etc etc... and the unspoken statement in all of this is, if you do these things you will have beautiful women in your life and that will make you happy. Now it very well may make you happy for awhile, but problem arise when troubles come... you see you've built your frame without a foundation and the happiness you have filled it with is fleeting. What happens to a PUA when they get AMOG'ed harder then they can handle and their frame cracks? The revert back to the people they are on the inside, the insecure guy who couldn't get girls comes back out... or how about when they girls who provide their happiness leave them? Generally they have complete breakdowns.

To be truly happy we cant start in the middle, we must start at square one... you must perceive your own high self worth... Once you know your a valuable person that leads directly to confidence and happiness radiating from the inside out, instead of the other way around.

Now I know a lot of people hear that and recoil stating some of the standard change resisting objections;

But change takes a long time.

But change is so hard.

You cant change someones beliefs.


These are all completely false, they are perpetuated by the psychological community and society in general. Change itself is instant its the preparation that has a variable amount of time. Change itself is not difficult its gaining the proper leverage that people without the right tool find difficult. Lastly people change beliefs all the time, in fact I'm sure most of us can look back on a belief we used to have that we no longer hold and even be a bit embaressed that we believed something like that.

How we achieve this change to our inner beliefs however comes in a 2 parts. We must first determine how we view ourselves currently and how we would like to view ourselves. Then Secondly we bridge the gap between those two. Now I dont have time to go into depth on how exactly this is done... there are many many ways that dont fully work... a couple ways that may work over the course of months and years and only one known way that works in minutes and hours. So basically you can take they time to study all the methods and master them, then apply them to your life or you can find someone to work with you who has already done that and can guide you through. Either way you choose its time to take action!

If you want to truly lead a happy, healthy, confident life then its time to stop making excuses and claim the life you were born to lead!