Alright, so as you guys might know, I've been trying to get a girl to hang out with me and many have said I should supply more detail. So I decided to it in a somewhat J the Ripper style for all of these mess-up/good incidents as a supplement and for it's own interesting goodness
So I'll start with the first incident:
BSN Halloween Party (5 months ago?)
Ok, so my AZA chapter decided to throw a Halloween party with the girls. I was so happy because I had just gotten my mom to buy me a V for Vendetta outfit for a presentation I had to do in Spanish class
I ended up bringing the hat and knives to the party, but not the V mask itself - I was somewhat pissed from this.
To get the party started officially, everyone went down stairs to the basement of the house we were at. From there they started a "fashion show" of sorts. I was called up with one other guy and I believe 2 other girls. One of them was Budd.
Now I had actually met her awhile ago when she first came to town and then again after the group decided to go to Charlie's (restaurant) one night but we never really talked and I was at my most un-pua almost at that time; trying incessively to impressively talk to them, etc. - crap talk, so she didn't even really know me before this. Before she had glasses and had thought she was hot then, but now she was using contacts and others recognized it too. But tonight I was going to try and make myself known. And now I had what I had learned from "The Pick-Up Artist" TV show with everyone's favorite Mystery.
So we're up on the stairs waiting and deciding how we're going down. After everybody is worried, I just say "here - I'll go down!" and proceed to go down. She, being also a very flirty girl, gave a "omg I love you for this!" and a blowkiss even. I didn't think much of it because I've seen girls who are very flirty like that anyways (though those are the girls I'm also extremely attracted too; it is probably because they are generally nice people and also hot
). So I go down, do a lil' strut and sit down somewhere. They all come down right after me, and it was overall pretty fun watching the rest of the people. I was having a good night - this girl, whether it was much or not, was INTO me.
After that, and a haunted house in which one guy took the girls through the basement in the dark while guys where hiding everywhere making noises and even lightly touching them at times (I think one guy actually went for a feel at some point
oy), everyone just was hanging out.
Girl: Hey, so question: What is your costume?
Me: Well its supposed to be V for Vendetta, but I forgot the mask. hah
Girl: Hah - wow. What is that again?
Me: OMG - awesome movie
Girl: What's it about?
Me: (gives a little schpiel) but yeah, you'd probably like it
Other guy joins in discussion about their school for a bit, I'm somewhat in it, but also still in great standing nonetheless.
So then I get a call (really the perfect way to eject with class
) and take it. My mom was there to pick me up. I was so shocked and saddened. My one chance taken away from me! AGH
So from here, I make a move that probably was decent in the end, but I knew then and know even more now that it could've ended so much better. After seeing that they were still talking, I had no idea (or possibly mental excuse) how to just go back over and say that I had to go. So INSTEAD, I just decide to head up the stairs and get into my mom's car. SCREWUP, but still decent.
The Chabad Hanukkah at the Mall (3 months ago?)
So our second impacting meeting came at the Chabad Hanukkah Party. Every year, the Chabad House (a Jewish sect that operates an almost organization-chain of these places) puts on a Chanukkah celebration at the mall, and my dad and I are good friends of his so my dad had to come out. I had lots of homework that night, but decided to go anyways. It would prove both beneficial and ech for me in the end.
So I dress up a little, spray a lil' Oldspice and go out the door (
). We get there and I find two friends who are the most stupid but sometimes funny guys to be around. I'm talking with them for a bit, when up comes the ramp to the food court (where it was being held - smack dab in the center of it too) comes Budd. I give a usual What's Up and am staying cool, but inside my heart is racing partially and very excited for my opportunity. I had learned from Mystery Method that a good way of staying in charge is introducing people (
) so I introduce her to the two guys who almost entirely become awkward and freeze up. After bringing them into conversation, they start just talking to each other again about truck stunts, balls shots, and other crap that can sometimes be fun with the guys only as a teen. Ech - so I talk to her for a bit, then she goes on her way. I see where she goes and plan on heading down there in a few minutes. After a few more minutes of talking to these guys, I go over a little bit (because I had thought I lost her) and find none other than the beloved Mrs. K who she happens to be sitting with. Mrs. K was our BBYO Director and used to work for the Jewish Private School I had gone to, and was just very utterly awesome
After I come over there for like a minute or two, Budd gets up and moves away. I'm somewhat shocked, but I'm loving talking to Mrs. K and do for like 5-7 more minutes. After that I'm just walking through the crowd trying to see what's happening, and actually happen upon Budd.
This is where my chance appeared. And I didn't even have to do anything.
Me: Hey!
Girl: Hey!
Me: so this is just pretty awesome with the Israeli Dancing and all...(sarcasm)"
Her: hah yeah. Hey, you want to come sit a table with me?
Me: Sure!
I'm so tense yet loose at this very moment. I had just found that there was attraction, enough for her to engage! I was so happy, so I obliged behind her.
After we get to a table, it almost becomes more like a date-like questions: getting to know each with questions about school, other activities, etc. She Irish dances, I play guitar and go to an extremely small school - it made good conversation for a bit, but then we both sort of came to a silence, and (as the Preppy BBYO Jews we are, Numen/Bobby will get it more
) take out our phones. I don't ask for number, and pretend to be doing something (though I'm not).
Eventually, Kelly (another girl we know) is coming in, so we go over and say hi to her. After some discussion of the fact that both her and Budd needed to go Victoria's Secret, I explained how I myself needed to find a better bra so I was going loose like a whore, and insisted that we go with her. Budd then found her mom (dad, someone in that area) leaving and had to go. I gave a "later!" and she did the same, but I felt I had achieved much and nothing at the same time - like playing your favorite game and beating the level that took you so long to beat; you feel invincible, but then when you start the next level you just fail within the first two seconds...Yeah, to put in more trivial terms at least...
The BSN B'not Chunukkah Party (week later I think?)
-Lots of people talking, so I didn't talk to her for too much of the time, but was the last person left to be picked up before the final rides by the president (to someone near him) was to leave so that it would be done.
Cast:
Budd
Me
Sarah (eccentric Girl president)
Danny (awesomely hilarious but eccentric guy president)
Kelley
So I'm talking with Kelley and get a bit of a confidence boost:
Her "yeah, the sophomores are pretty cool"
Me: "yeah, I have to say our class is probably the sweetest..."
Her: !?
Me: !? what
Her: You're a sophomore!?
Me: Yeah, why?
Her: I thought you were a junior! omg (we both laugh for a few sec)
-so that was definitely a confidence boost for the night, and made my game better. I actually have received comments like that all my life, but that was the first from a girl my age, and also first since high school.
So once again, everyone is talking again. Danny, who had already knew Budd through school, was talking with her, and eventually got her number.
Girl: You're the first BSN guy to ask me for my number! What's the deal?
Me: Here, I'll tell you what, I'll be the second. Here...
*proceed to get number and number from other person who just took both the phones of me and danny to sort through them, say she wasn't, then say she was going to put her number in...oy
*
After a few I get a phone call that my mom is coming in a minute or two. So I come back down for a bit, and then the girls parents (we had it at a house) told us there was a car outside - time for me to leave. I screweed up last time and I didnt wan't to this time.
So I was about to leave and Danny yells to me "Hey c'mon, what about a handshake?!" So both he and Sarah put out their hands, and I come back and do it round the circle. When I get to Budd, I hear her sorta wondering.
Her: ..(?)
Me: C'mon, handshakes are cool for anyone. NICE (regarding the type of handshake we ended up with - got a good snap out of it
)
Her: hah (possibly a lil' confused still)
I left, and gave the girl a handshake as a leaving gesture. wtf, but not ruined - got the number! WOO
Maccabi Arts Fest intro movie night (month ago)
-I come in late, both Kelly and Budd are there. Budd gives me a sorta flirty wave, prob should've latched on but didn't. I sit down and we begin official talks of what it actually is, then watch the videos from last year's. Afterwards Budd, Kelley, and I go outside for them to try and get a secret out of me: Who's on their Beau Court.
Beau Court is like Homecoming Court, but for BBYO. It's a big thing, and you are supposedly put on/voted to get on based on how hard you work for the chapter. The guys vote for the girls, the girls make the guys. It's very secretive until the actual event. Usually it gets leaked to somebody one way or another though. Now back to my story
So we go outside and first thing they ask me is "Whose on Court!?!?!" After about an 22 minutes of us going back and forth with this, etc. I finally give in and tell them. We have a bit of discussion and I make 'em promise they won't tell.
After that, Kelley leaves, and its just me and Budd for awhile. During this time, we're just talking, and she asks for
my number. At the time, I was scared she was about to text somebody what she had found out, and then as pretty much start to lay right next to her on the couch she says she wanted my number. I wasn't sure what to think - was it for real interest or just to get me to back off? Going to the court ceremony, I'm pretty sure the girls didn't really know (the ones who weren't on) who was getting and who wasn't so I think wasn't it, but a man has to be skeptical at times...
So she leaves as I'm typing in my number and goes back to the room we were in for the video. I come back in, hand her the phone, and talk for a few minutes with her and the 2 girls (one a mother, one just married so more polite conversation) along with her caretaker/babysitter/somebody. When she leaves, I don't get a hug or anything though and am a lilttle depressed by that along with that I wasn't sure whether or not the # was for real. Once again, 1 step forward and half-a-step back.
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Since then, we've just been generally cool and chill when we happen to be at things. We've had some texting convos, one she initiated when a program was going to be at my house (That was going to be best for this, but then got cancelled...)Last time I saw her, I only spoke to her like for 5min then had to leave (even though I was there for much longer) - that was the Sunday School Purim Carnival in which my class was "helping out with it", but didn't do too much of anything.
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Last night I made a call to her to hang out:
Me: Yo Budd
HB: Hey
Me: So listen
HB:?
Me: It has been break for I think five days(?) and we haven't hung out yet!
HB: Hah k
Me: So what do you plan on doing about this?
HB: hah. idk - can I call you back? I'm babysitting
Me: Sure - later
*Go to hang up phone, but hear her saying "what? huh?", pick back up
Me: you say something?
HB: (maybe said "nah) hah later
Me: later (or cya - forget which)
So now this is where I am at this current moment. The call was yesterday, and didn't get a call back (though I have learned that this doesn't necessarily mean anything). I felt that a day later after that probably is too soon, so I'm probably going to wait out the night and after talking with others decide what my plan of action should be, though I have heard that I have not screwed myself over
yet. woo!
(btw- I got another thread asking for what to do next in the Reeling Her In section
here)
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