really cute, interesting and nice, but nice to all
So, I was out with one of my buddies, Vincent.
He has a GF now, and loves to interact with women, so he acts as my wing now. And he is really good at it. His GF, Flower was actually my winggirl, haha!
Anyway, I go to this table because I've seen and greeted the girls there when I came into the bar.
I chat to Denice, a slender blond in her mid twenties. She has big, clear eyes and she's damn cute.
So we chat for a while, just shooting the shit and we hit it off pretty well. Turns out she lives in the west and likes to surf. So I propose that we head out together some time. She's like, no it's cold, and I call her a pussy.
Then her friends come in, and OMG! There's this absolutely STUNNING, curly, brunette with them, and I'm like, YES! SO my type! Her name turns out to be Barbara, so I call her Barbie.
So first I start to talk to the other, short girl. She has curly hair, also good looking, she's more the princess type and she likes to shop, her name is Vera.
I ask them (and this is one of my standard openers) how they know eachother. She says they know eachother through a group of guys, but the guys are out of the picture. So she makes it quite clear from the start that they're all single. It's almost funny, and in hindsight, I should've done something with that.
Anyway, Vera and I chat for a while. She tells me that she's kind of a cluts and what not. It's really going great. At a point I bump her butt, and she says that I'd surely loose if I'd be doing that. I tell her that's rediculous, my sister didn't call me side-table for nothing. She says she has two side tables. So I over-obviously check out her ass, and -she's bubbly which I like- and her chest, and I say it's not that bad. She gasps with amazement, but is pleasantly amused.
Then I talk to the another girl, Linda. She turns out to have a BF, but that's fine with me.
Some swaps occur and I end up talking to both Linda and Denice again, about surfing. Then Linda leaves to meet up with her BF somewhere.
So, I ask what Denice would like to do for the rest of her life, and she says that she likes to talk. And she's in marketing, so I'm thinking Jerry McQuire.
So I say that she could become very rich and famous and that she could support me! And I make it like I could then surf the world and sit on the couch and watch soaps, etc.
And she says that she only hears advantages for me. And I say, well... you can come along of course! And she says that she'd be too busy working.
So she asks me what I have to offer, so I tell her that I just really look good and that I can cook. I guess this is the point where I shoot myself in the foot, but I saw no other way to continue the convo.
All the while I start dancing and singing to songs that I really like and Flower plays along. It's really funny to just interupt a convo and just start singing and dancing. Vera and Barbie join in singing, so that's really cool.
At a certain point Denice and I are talking about learning. Denice is fiddling with her hair, obvious IOI, i guess.
Then Barbie comes over and stands next to me. So I include her into the convo. And she really has a lot of smart things to say, we were talking about learning and improving yourself. So we hit if off, and in the mean time I make fun of her earrings and call her curly-girl. At a point she starts fidling with her hair as well.
Denice and Vera are getting ready to leave. Cue, and where I dropped the ball, from Barbie that she doesn't really want to leave. I don't really reply. Now what I SHOULD"VE said: you don't HAVE to go, we can get comfi here, bla bla bla.
Instead I get Denice's number, and I tell her that we're gonna go surfing soon. There should be some waves upcoming weekend.
They leave...
My buddy's GF, Flower comes over and slaps me, then my buddy Vincent does the same. Flower made this very explicit. They said that I had at least three of them wrapped around my finger, but I didn't close the deal.
Flower said that the girls were complaining that I was too social. That I was attractive/cute, nice, interesting. But the girls didn't feel special, because I was talking to ALL of them, and not just one.
I'm also giving away too much information. I should be more mysterious, a challenge.
She also said, that I need to choose the girl(s) that I want to talk to and stick to those and just chat up any girl that gives me a smile/look.
So now there are things I KNOW and there are things I DO.
I KNOW that I should come accross as mysterious and a challenge.
You want to communicate "I MIGHT be interested, if you can hold my attention for long enough so I can find out if you're interesting enough to hang out with."
I KNOW that I can cut any thread in the convo that isn't suitable to my purpose.
I KNOW that I need to choose my target and stick to it, because I KNOW that I can control the situation.
The part is DOING.
I'm still confused about going for a girl, but not making it too obvious.
Last night, I didn't choose at all, I guess. I enjoyed the convo and attention so much, that I lost sight of the real goal, building attraction.
Then again, this is about the fourth time that I've chatted up 4 girls and managed to spark an interest, however brief it might have been.
All is not lost though...
I got Denice's number, so we'll meet up later.
We're all going to the same concert in June (Pearl Jam), so we'll meet up there.
Flower is probably going to live in the same house as Barbie.
Any comments/advice/feedback is much appreciated.
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