Reclaim your Sexuality

[Nick Krygier]

Almost all of us here suffer from a deficiency in energy which you may or may not agree stems from your second chakra, located around your lower abdomen. It is the second shift of consciousness that we all go through during early childhood, roughly around six months to two years and deals with experiencing the world through movement and connection. It's basic right is to feel and to have pleasure in order to connect with that which is beyond through our senses which are the gateway between the external and internal realms.

I believe that many of the men in the community suffer from this blocked or restricted energy flow as the symptoms show up in the most obvious ways we all at one time most likely embodied. However, it is possible to be both deficient and excessive in the energy we hold and they are both present.

Deficient
A stiff body
A body that is so focused on keeping it's posture alpha that it is rigid and awkward. Or a body that is so tense unawarely has the same effect.

Fear of sex
The fear many of have had as when it became time to pull the trigger, whether it be cold approach or fucking her heart out, we got trigger shy

Poor social skills
So we learn routines instead, bah

Fear of change
Depressed people are addicted to being depressed just like we are addicted to failure sometimes. Change is scary as the work it requires is intense sometimes

Lack of desire, passion, excitement
So many times i've seen guys in field bored out of their fucking mind just standing there with wallflowers feeling nothing but fear

Excessive
Oversensitivity
Butt hurt all the time, getting blown out hurts

Seductive manipulation
nothing needs to be said...

Obsessive attatchment
When one girl finally shows you interest you cling like a mother fucker


When one has dealt with their issues and balanced the flow of energy they will be able to move gracefully, be emotionally intelligent, have the ability to change, and be able to set healthy boundaries.

Some of the causes that can unbalance your energy during this stage of development, six months to two years, are as follows:
sexual abuse
emotional abuse
volatile situations
neglect, coldness, rejection
denail of child's feeling states
emotional manipulation - "here, you can have a candy if you do this and I'll love you"
religious or moral severity
physical abuse
alcoholic families
inherited issues- parents who haven't worked out their own shit

We are stifled by guilt and the sweetness of the svadhisthana is turned bitter.

There are ways to help though!

THrough affirmations and healing practices

Healing practices
movement therapy
emotional release or containment- as appropriate
inner child work
boundary work
assign healthy pleasures
develop sensate intelligence

Affirmations
I deserve pleasure in my life
I absorb information from my feelings
I embrace and celebrate my sexuality
My sexuality is sacred
I move easily and effortlessly
Life is pleasureable

Taken primarily from "Eastern Body, Western Mind," a great book.


THIS IS A HUGE TOPIC AND IF ANYONE HAS ANY QUESTIONS I WOULD LOVE TO TELL YOU MY PERSONAL BELIEFS.

[RedLine90]

Pretty cool. But there is on path that people can take with Affirmations, and that is saying to themselves "I'm happy" over and over, that shit does not work! Instead say things to yourself that will indirectly cause you to FEEL happy not just to think you are happy for example "I love my life." And Nick's examples are great also, just wanted to bring out the wrong way so people know it's wrong.

[Nick Krygier]

Yeah great clarification. Telling yourself "I have a big penis" is pointless and retarded. However, telling yourself "My body is my temple" you learn to love your body.

Awesome respnose redline thanks, very important stuff

[parkus]

Sounds like solid advice to me, I think the biggest problems arise from anxiety brought on by fear of the other being disapointed in performance / size / etc.