Loss of Attraction? - Men's Lifestyle Design Forum

Johnny Providence · #1 (**permalink**) 10-02-2007

So I'm in college and I sit next to a HB 8.5 who I just started gaming hard. I negged her soooo hard, and i DHVd like a motherfucker she def loved it. the problem is i read somewhere that the attraction i built will be significantly less and i will already be closer to the friend zone every class where i dont get her number. is that true?

Bob · #2 (**permalink**) 10-02-2007

when building up attraction the way you lose it is by not progressing fast enough. girls generally enjoy the chase but when it takes too long they get bored and you lose attraction. you only have so long before you have to number close her and so long before you have to further close her.. just like if you're in a relationship and the girl won't put out because she's a prude... you get bored and you drop her ass... they're the same way

Ian Smith · #3 (**permalink**) 10-03-2007

I wouldn't worry too much about a set-time when your ability to get her number expires. Just focus on conversing with her.

The girl I am currently seeing, I spoke with on 6 separate occasions over the course of 3-4 weeks before I got her number. It really doesn't matter all that much.

Keep in mind you still want to keep her interested, and thats a full-time job in and of itself.

Giacomo · #4 (**permalink**) 10-03-2007

I agree with Meth.
Time is not so much of an issue. Some girls I know I have been quietly talking to, getting to know and gaming for two years or so and they are much more attracted to me now than they ever have been.
I'm certain they would sleep with me in an instant given the right situation and probably want to form a relationship.
It is not time that ruins your chances of sleeping with a woman.
It is how you use that time that ruins your chances of sleeping with her.

If you arn't comfortable with a speed seduction approach, then don't do it. The consequences are however, that you will always need to have some sexual tension, whether it be a passing comment with sexual innuendo, or a tickle fest on her bed. Keep up the sexual tension and you will keep up your chances of having a sexual relationship.

Joe G. · #5 (**permalink**) 10-03-2007

Gaming does not have a set time, you will find. Mystery's 7 hour rule is just an average for him... some guys takes days, weeks, years, to get to a certain stage. Maybe not years, but you get the point...

You can beat friend-zones also. They are not an invincible barrier... Friend zones are just another shield to bypass.

Pav · #6 (**permalink**) 10-03-2007

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Originally Posted by Giacomo

Keep up the sexual tension and you will keep up your chances of having a sexual relationship.

Agreed with that and agreed with Meth and apollo
This girl I'm with now I had been just getting to know her for the first half of the year, then got into a casual relationship for a coouple of months, and then it progressed to a closer relatiionship.

Bob · #7 (**permalink**) 10-03-2007

i withdraw my previous post and agree with giacomo.. with sexual tension you can keep women on the side to call at will for years to come.

Daniel Becerra · #8 (**permalink**) 10-03-2007

Just keep her interested.

You see the magic of attracting a woman forever relies on many factors, one of them would be: Choice.

Yes, it is correct that you don't need to worry about closing her right now, but you do need to focus on constantly keeping the attraction and sexual tension up to the pace you DESIRE. Meaning, you can leave her waiting for a long time, as long as you occupy her mind with an adequate level of sexual tension.

One of the best ways to do this is to keep her wondering whether or nothing you're seeing someone else, if she's in your class, talk to other girls not just her, make sure that she notices this, the more you flirt with her and at the same time the more you talk to other girls, the more she'll stick to you. Just do it buddy.