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Applying 48 Laws Of Power To Pick Up
Author: Toecutter , Robert Greene

Just reading a book, The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene. Definitely lessons everywhere in the book on what we do here. The book is amoral, and open about the deception inherit in what he is teaching. It is largely for life outside the arena of seduction, but entrirely applicable and there are some seduction examples in it to illustrate his points (only historical: For example the advice of Ninon de Lenclos on seduction to the Marquis de Sevigne and what happened when the Marquis did not follow her advice, etc.). The examples are all pulled from the Sun Tzu (Chinese, the Art of War), European history, famous con men, magicians and charlatans, Kings, Queens, Napoleon and other power brokers such as Al Capone. Perfect for you guys who enjoy Machiavelli. At 450 reasonably large format pages it is fairly long.

It is going to take me several re-readings, but at the moment I see the messages as really 3 fold: First, play your cards pretty close to your chest. This creates mystery. The more you say, the more common you appear and the less in control. Andy Wohol created enigma by not discussing his work and answering questions by being intentionally vague giving people the feeling that he was being more profound than he was. If you do not reveal all, people will never become bored with you or your presence because you will continue to represent a challenge, and will be eternally interesting. Your silence will make other people feel uncomfortable and humans are machines of interpretation and explanation; they have to know what you are thinking. When you carefully control what you reveal, they cannot pierce your intentions and meaning. Your short answers will put them on the defensive and they will jump in, nervously filling the silence with all kinds of comments that will reveal valuable information about themselves and their weaknesses.

This brings me to the second message. Learn everything you can about other people. Their strengths and weaknesses, their crutches and trance words. Their motivations. Use these to your advantage whilst revealing as little as possible about yourself. Keep them the focus of the conversation, and be a 'Spy' on their minds by eliciting values.

The third lesson is to use smoke and mirrors to obscure your objectives and motivations. Throw decoys out there, use gifts as Trojan horses, and be circumspect in what is going on. Again, this throws them off your game, gives you an upper hand.

None of this is to say that you need to be quiet or a bad conversationalist, just the opposite, by spying and eliciting values, you are encouraging people to talk about themselves, their own favourite subject. By being brief about yourself you are creating mystery and interest. It is just that you are collecting the information in order to use it against them at another time, whilst manipulating your image and reputation in their minds and obscuring your real motivations. In some ways it is a book on playing hard to get while outmanoeuvring the girl. A perfect structure in which to drop SS.

Some of the content is below. I can post more on it if you would like further discussion; I am overflowing with ideas on it.

Toecutter

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To list some of the laws that are obviously applicable:

Law 3: Conceal your intentions (Keep people off balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. If they have no clue what you are up to, they cannot prepare a defence. Guide them far enough down the wrong path, envelop them in enough smoke, and by the time they realise your intentions, it will be too late.)

Law 4: Always say less than is necessary

Law 6: Court attention at all costs Law 8: Make other people come to you - use bait if necessary

Law 9: Win though your actions, never through argument. (Any momentary triumph you win though argument is really a Pyrrhic victory: The resentment and ill will you stir up is stronger and lasts longer than any momentary change in opinion. It is much more powerful to get others to agree with you though your actions, without saying a word. Demonstrate, do not explicate.)

Law 10: Infection: Avoid the unhappy and unlucky (it works the other way also. This is an alternative take on social-proof, or pivots or whatever you want to call them, as well as wingmen. Also advice on not getting involved with the wrong girl.)

Law 11: Learn to keep people dependent on you.

Law 12: Use selective generosity to disarm your victim (One sincere and honest move will cover over dozens of dishonest ones. Openhearted gestures of honesty and generosity bring down the guard of even the most suspicious people. Once your selective honesty opens a hole in their armour, you can deceive and manipulate at will.)

Law 13: When asking for help, appeal to people's self interest, never to their mercy or gratitude.

Law 14: Pose as a friend, work as a spy.

Law 16: Use absence to increase respect and honour. (Again through mystery and not stuffing it up by staying too long and doing or saying something wrong.)

Law 17: Keep others in suspended terror: Cultivate an air of unpredictability

Law 18: Do not build fortresses to protect yourself - Isolation is dangerous. (Get out there amongst them).

Law 19: Know who you are dealing with - do not offend the wrong person.

Law 20: Do not commit yourself to anyone.

Law 21: Play a sucker to catch a sucker - appear dumber than your mark. (Let her think that she is in control and smart, less naive, don't let on you are a player).

Law 25: Re-create yourself (Do not accept the roles that society foists on you. Re-create yourself by forging a new identity, one that commands attention and never bores the audience. Be the master of your own image rather than letting others define it for you. Incorporate dynamic devices into your public gestures and actions - your power will be enhanced and your character will seem larger than life).

Law 26: Keep your hands clean. (You must seem a paragon of civility and efficiency: Your hands are never soiled by mistakes and nasty deeds. Maintain such a spotless appearance by using others as scapegoats and cat' s-paws to disguise your involvement).

Law 27: Play on peoples need to believe to create a cult like following. (advice in this chapter is on how to become a cult leader or maybe build a harem. 5 strategies to your dogma!
a) Keep it vague; Keep it simple
b) Emphasise the visual and sensual over the intellectual
c) Borrow the forms of organised religion to structure the group
d) Disguise your income source
e) set up an us-vs.-them dynamic. I think Ross Jeffries read this one!)

Law 28: Enter action with Boldness. (If you are unsure of a course of action, do not attempt it. Your doubts and hesitations will infect your execution. Timidity is dangerous: Better to enter with boldness. Any mistakes you make through audacity are easily corrected with more audacity. Everyone admires the bold; no one honours the timid).

Law 29: Plan all the way to the end.

Law 30: Make your accomplishments seem effortless. (Your actions must seem natural and executed with ease. All the toil and practice that goes into them, also all the clever tricks, must be concealed. When you act, act effortlessly, as if you could do much more. Avoid the temptation of revealing how hard you work - it only raises questions. Teach no one your tricks or they will be used against you .. I am breaking this rule right here with this post, as is the Authour of the book.)

Law 31: Control the options: Get others to play with the cards you deal. (The best deceptions are the ones that seem to give the other person a choice: Your victims feel they are in control, but are actually your puppets. Give people options that come out in your favour whichever one they choose. Force them to make choices between the lesser of two evils, both of which serve your purpose. Put them on the horns of the dilemma: they are gored wherever they turn. Note: this is a different view on my idea of re-framing questions. The questions are re-framed so well that the girl has no option.)

Law 32: Play to people's fantasies.

Law 33: Discover each mans thumbscrew.

Law 34: Be royal in your own fashion: Act like a king to be treated like one.

Law 35: Master the art of timing. (Never seem to be in a hurry - hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself, and over time. Always seem patient, as if you know that everything will come to you eventually. Become a detective of the right moment; sniff out the spirit of the times, the trends that will carry you to power. Learn to stand back when the time is not yet ripe, and to strike fiercely when it has reached fruition.)

Law 36: Disdain things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best revenge.

Law 37: Create compelling spectacles. (Striking imagery and grand symbolic gestures create the aura of power - everyone responds to them. Stage spectacles for those around you, then, full of arresting visuals and radiant symbols to heighten your presence. Dazzled by appearances, no one will notice what you are really doing.)

Law 40: Despise the free Lunch.

Law 43: Work on the hearts and minds of others.

Law 44: Disarm and infuriate with the mirror effect. (The mirror reflects reality, but is the perfect tool for deception: When you mirror your enemies, doing exactly as they do, they cannot figure out your strategy. The mirror Effect mocks and humiliates them, making them overreact. By holding up a mirror to their psyches, you seduce them with the illusion that you share their values; by holding up a mirror to their actions you teach them a lesson. Few can resist the power of the mirror effect.)

Law 48: Assume formlessness. (By taking a shape, by having a visible plan, you open yourself to attact. Instead of taking a form for the girl to grasp, keep yourself adaptable and on the move. Accept the fact that nothing is certain and no law is fixed. The best way to protect yourself is to be as fluid and formless as water: never bet on stability or lasting order. Everything changes.)

[Ray Casanova]

I don't like this article at all, in fact it disgusts me.

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Author: Derek Vitalio


A good adult film is like a Blissnosis session all unto itself. A good adult film puts a woman into a sexual and highly suggestible state, and then leads her through a sexual fantasy that pushes her boundaries into new sexual experiences.

For instance, if your woman is averse to giving oral, through adult films she can watch other women perform oral on men. By living vicariously through these uninhibited women on film, and by enacting the fantasy inside her own mind, all in the comfort of her home, she’ll buck the taboo.

Also, just watching others do something makes it acceptable. Adult films are like positive social proof for your woman. If you want your woman to perform oral, have her watch other women give it. If you want your woman to be with other women, have her watch other women be with other women on film.

Of course, 99% of adult films are of the “slam, bang, thank you ma’am” type and designed for a man’s quick release rather than building a woman’s turn on.

That’s why you want to introduce your woman to female friendly films first. Watching a chick get triple plugged in a dirty alley behind a dumpster can come later. You want to start off with films that are fun to watch and that she’ll feel comfortable with… and yet hardcore enough to get her sexually excited.

Here are two films that I particularly recommend…

THE TATIANA TRILOGY

First on your list should be the film trilogy Tatiana.

That’s right, Tatiana is actually a trilogy of three films that tell the life of a beautiful peasant girl called Tatiana, and epic journey back to a romanticized 1830s French countryside, as she has sex with princes, prostitutes, and even her own enemies in a quest to avenge her sister.

All the inter-character dialogue is in French, but there’s a narration in English with a sexy European accent so that you know what’s going on. And like a good soap opera, shot in front of old European Castles and inside of grand European chateaus, you actually care about the characters and what will happen next to them.

On a purely visual level, the costumes and settings of Tatiana are lavish and beautiful, and all the women give great sexual performances with enthusiasm and a smile on their faces. And that’s what you want your woman to get out of an adult film - that the women in the film enjoy being sexual creatures and that sex is natural and fun.

The sex scenes are varied and action packed as well, ranging from one peasant girl taking on six French noblemen, high-class French prostitutes serving clients, two young princesses shagging the gardener, the maids having sex with the king, the queen getting serviced by her carriage men… well, you get the idea. In Tatiana’s world, romanticized characters have sex for fun and pleasure at the drop of a dime, and it’s all beautiful and natural.

In short, this trilogy of movies is perfect to watch with your woman to make her sexually liberal in general. The film is beautiful, hot, sexy, and most importantly, fun to watch for the story and characters too.

PIRATES

Riding on the box-office coattails of the wildly successful Disney movie Pirates of the Caribbean, the adult film Pirates is a high-budget triple-X adult film that the ladies will like… I’ve even seen the rated-R version in Blockbuster!

Although some of the acting in Pirates is a little bad, the film’s stories and characters actually holds more or less together. The shining star of the film is the nitwitted Captain Edward Reynolds (played by Evan Stone) who talks a lot about himself as a fearless pirate hunter, but in reality has doubts about himself and has never been in an actual fight.

The pirate hunting Captain is also completely oblivious to the fact that his beautiful first mate, the nymphomaniac “Jules” (played by Jesse Jane) sleeps with the entire crew of his ship. Captain Reynolds simply attributes all the orgasmic screaming he hears on the lower decks as praises to God “in what must be Bible Study”.

In his search for pirates, Captain Reynolds lands on an island where he is seduced by two beautiful prostitutes. One of the heroines of the movie meanwhile is kidnapped by a bunch of pirates and seduced into getting it on with another woman.

Pirates is a particularly good flick if you want to open your woman up to girl-on-girl bisexuality. At the end of the film, one of the heroines confesses to her suitor that she slept with two women, and she liked it. To her surprise, her man is ecstatic. Strangely enough, it’s a sweet and romantic ending and you find yourself feeling all warm and fuzzy inside that the heroine is going to bring her man some girl-on-girl threesomes in the near future.

The costumes are great, the lighting and colors are super sexy, the special effects and story are good for an adult film, the actors beautiful, and the sex is downright hot and passionate. Pirates is a great starter adult chick-flick for you to sit down and watch with your woman.

[daredevil15]

Remote Control Egg
Author: David Shade




NightVision - this is a good example of taking the lead, domination and being unpredictable. David Shade uses many techniques including NLP to pleasure his partners. He reveals his techniques in his manual.

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I was surfing the web, and being the twisted demented creative person that I am, always looking for new ways to let my girlfriend at the time have fun, I came across a 'remote control egg.' This is a small plastic egg shaped vibrator that is turned on and off by radio commands from a small remote control. I thought "Remote control! I have an idea!" I immediately ordered one.

Do a search on the Web for Swedish Erotica Remote Control Egg. The egg is somewhat loud, but it cannot be heard when it is 'in vivo' (in natural position.)

When it arrived, I called my girlfriend and told her what I had purchased. I told her "You are going to wear it and I am going to hold the remote control, and when we are out on our date, if you are a really good girl, maybe I'll turn it on for you." She said "Oooooh, sounds like fun." I told her before hand because I didn't want to shock her with the idea when she arrived, but instead, I wanted her to fantasize about it for a few days first.

When she arrived Saturday night for our date, I showed it to her. She laughed, but she said she'd play along. I told her to go into the bedroom and place it 'in vivo.' I heard her exclaim "What's with this black string?" I said "That's the antenna/pull cord. Just hide it in your panties." hehe

Then she came out and sat next to me with a smile on her face. I held up the remote and said "Are you ready?" She said "Yes." So I turned it on. She laughed and then started loving it. I turned it off and put the remote back in my pocket and said "OK, let's go to dinner."

On the way there, I turned it on and let her enjoy it while I told her how I was going to turn it on when we are at dinner and everybody will be looking at her, but she cannot let anyone know what she is feeling because she is a very proper woman. She cannot let anyone know just how much of a naughty little girl she really is. She was ready just by hearing the fantasy. I turned it off and we parked.

When we were standing in the lobby placing our name on the list, while everybody was watching her, I turned it on. I spoke softly into her ear how she cannot let anyone know just how naughty she really is.

We took a seat at the bar to wait for our table. I brought her up a few more times with the remote while speaking softly into her ear. Eventually we were called and brought to our table.

We were seated at a table with many other people sitting at tables around us. Each time the waitress came to us, I turned it on. hehe. My girlfriend did a lot of smiling while ordering. While we were waiting for our food, I turned it on while I again narrated from across the table. She got really close so I turned it off.

Our food arrived so I left the remote alone for the entire time that we had food at the table. Later, after the plates had been cleared, and we had new drinks brought to us, we resumed our little game.

I turned it back on and left it on. I said "You cannot let anyone know what you are feeling because you are a very proper woman. You cannot let anyone know just how much of a naughty little girl you really are." She said softly "David, I'm going to come." I said "Not yet, you must ask permission." She said "Please David." I said "You want to hear those famous words." She said "Yes." I waited a moment and then I said the famous words "Come like a good girl" which is her command to come, and she closed her eyes and she did, right there, at the table, in front of everybody.

As far as I could tell, nobody knew. But there was one young lady at the table next to us who seemed to be concerned that maybe my girlfriend wasn't feeling so well. hehe

A few weeks later, I had my girlfriend wear it again while we went out dancing. I teased her with it all evening. But then when we were out on the dance floor, I left it on. Next to us was a stunningly beautiful tall classy redhead in a formal evening gown who was dancing by herself. I had seen her earlier sitting at a table on a double date. I waited until my girlfriend was really 'close' and then I turned off the remote and I tapped the redhead on the shoulder and held out the remote and said to her "Do you know what this is?" She stopped dancing and just looked at it. I said "Hold it" and I handed it to her. My girlfriend became very embarrassed, but she does love beautiful women. Then I said "Turn it on." She turned it on. Then I said "Now look at my girlfriend's face." The redhead's eyes got really big and she said to my girlfriend "Is he bullshitting?" and my girlfriend smiled and replied "No." Then the redhead started waving the remote in front of my girlfriend's skirt. Then I said to the redhead "Tell her to come like a good girl." The redhead said into my girlfriend's ear "Come like a good girl and let the juices flow down your leg!" hehe Then my girlfriend held on to me tight and she had an orgasm right there on the dance floor. Then the redhead smiled and handed the remote back to me and she walked off.

Later my girlfriend said to me "You are so BOLD! But you are so EXCITING!"

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The Deep Spot
Author: David Shade


Back in '93, I was dating a 22 year old woman who had never had an orgasm. She did have one long term boyfriend, so I knew that intercourse or oral would not do the trick. So I just took my time finding what would feel good for her. With my middle finger I searched for her "g" spot, but received no response. Then I decided to slide my finger in as far along the front wall of her vagina as I could. At its greatest depth, the inner diameter of the vagina increases. This area is no longer spongy, but instead smooth and firm, with slight horizontal ribbing. I curled the tip of my finger in a "come hither" manner, while pressing hard against the ribbing and slightly pulling down. She immediately responded to this. After continuing this for a few minutes, she had a concerned look on her face. Then the most wonderful thing happened. I watched the face of this beautiful woman while, for the first time in her life, she had an orgasm. That was sweet. She then breathlessly said "David, kiss me!" Eventually she was able to orgasm readily in any manner.

According to Gray's Anatomy, this area is called the "cavity of the cervix." This area is shaped like the underside of a Frisbee, with the cervix in the center pointing downward. Imagine the way you hold a Frisbee. Your fingertips touch the inside edge of the Frisbee. Curl the tip of your finger down the inside edge of the Frisbee in a "come hither" manner. (See diagram below.)

Later I was seeing a woman who had only had orgasms with the aid of continual direct clitoral stimulation. Basically, she had only had clitoral orgasms. I used the deep spot on her, and within a few minutes she exclaimed: "Oh David, I'm gonna come! I have NEVER come this way! Oh, I'm gonna COME!" and she did, her very first vaginal orgasm. After a few evenings of awakening her vagina (by stimulating less of the deep spot and more of the wall of the vagina) she was able to readily orgasm in intercourse.

Because the uterus is slightly tilted towards the front, the cavity of the cervix is also slightly tilted. The Frisbee is lower in the front and higher in the back. The entire inside edge of the Frisbee, all the way around, is sensitive.

Another variation to this is to get her on her hands and knees and go in along the back wall of her vagina. Go in as deep as possible. Along the back it is deeper because the Frisbee is tilted. Curl the tip of your finger as if to press hard against her tail bone. Repeat. To her it will feel as if she is getting butt fucked. Some women find this very exciting and will experience a very powerful orgasm. I did this to one woman as she held the bathroom sink. When she was coming I thought she was going to rip the sink right off the wall. After she caught her breath, and checked for broken finger nails, she told me that she just had the most powerful orgasm of her life. "That was the grand daddy of 'em all!"

When you massage the deep spot, do it firmly. As you massage the back of the deep spot, you are simulating the "ballooning" that occurs in this area at the time of her orgasm. As you massage any area of the deep spot, you are simulating the muscle contractions that occur at the time of her orgasm to dilate the cervix. She can't HELP but come!

The deep spot has one important benefit over the clitoris. The problem with the clitoris is that after a few seconds of an orgasm, it becomes so painfully sensitive that it cannot be further stimulated. The deep spot does not have this problem. The deep spot is one way to give a woman a very sustained orgasm. Besides, these natural muscle contractions continue to occur for some time after an orgasm anyway.

Another alternative to this is to let her lie face up. Use two fingers, your index finger and your middle finger. Keep the tips of your two fingers about an inch apart as you rub firmly against the front of her deep spot.

I did some research and found that Chee Ann Chua, a Malaysian marriage counselor, published a paper called the "a-spot" in 1997 in "The Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy."

The text basically says: "The Anterior Fornix of the vagina is located on the front wall of the vagina just below the cervix. It is about 3/4 of an inch to 1 1/2 inches long. Its borders are not well defined. The texture is smooth, unlike the G-Spot. If you place the tip of your finger over the cervix, and move it down a bit, staying on the front wall, your fingertip will be on the anterior fornix. Stimulate in a circular motion. If you move down too far, you will feel the texture change. That will mean that your finger tip is no longer in the right place."

This is the front of "the deep spot." But, as I said above, the deep spot is sensitive all the way around, and, it should be stroked by bending the tip of the finger in a "come hither" fashion while at the same time pulling down.

But the most powerful way to stimulate the vagina is at the back of the deep spot. Get the tip of your middle finger way in deep along the back of the vagina. Stroke against the back of the vagina in a 'come hither' manner. When she gets really excited, the deep back of the vagina will begin to pocket. Press the tip of your middle finger against the back of the pocket, and with the pad of your finger, press down on the PC muscle, which will be contracting so hard that it will feel like it is going to break your finger. But drive on hard. It will drive her crazy.

So, I enlisted my willing love lab subject (my girlfriend) and I set out to rate the various "spots." Here are the actual anecdotal findings of the experiment in increasing order of efficacy:

g-spot "good"
a-spot with circular stimulation "MUCH better"
front of deep spot with come hither stroking "Oh Yes"
back of deep spot with come hither stroking "OH God"
back of deep spot with long and forceful stroking "OH DAVID"

the deep spot

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Author: Savoy
ANow we’ll discuss how to make sure she shows up in the first place and doesn’t "flake"

First, ask yourselves this:

* Have you ever made plans with a woman and not have her show up?

* Have you ever gotten a phone call earlier that day telling you that she "has to work" or "isn’t feeling well"?

* Have you ever made plans with a woman and then she told you to "call to confirm"

If any of that applies to you, you need to really pay attention here. This will banish flakes forever.

First, let’s review the first three phases of The Emotional Progression Model:

Attraction

Qualification

Comfort

The biggest mistake most men make in terms of Day2s is going for the phone number as soon as she is attracted (in Attraction) and not pushing the relationship forward. Then they assume that the woman will meet them again, and they can continue where they left off. Only to get "flaked". They never meet up.

Why? Let’s look at the situation from a woman’s perspective:

She goes out to a restaurant with her friends. While waiting at the bar, an interesting man approaches her. 3-5 minutes later (about how long it should take to get some attraction going), he asks for her number so they can "hang out sometime". At that moment, she genuinely would "hang out" with this man "sometime"...



...but it doesn’t turn out that way.

See, going out "sometime" is different from going out Thursday night. To see her "sometime" all you have to do is be more interesting than doing nothing. That’s a pretty low standard, so of course she’ll agree to it. And, if she has nothing else to do, she might actually see you. However, most worthwhile women rarely have "nothing else to do".

So, to see her at a specific time, you need to be more interesting than anything else she could be doing, like friends, hobbies, work, other dates, or relaxing at home. That’s a tough standard to meet in 3-5 minutes. Especially since over the course of the night she met a bunch of other men. Did you think you were the only man to notice her? She likes all of the attention and flirting, but she doesn’t have time to go on 9 dates this week.

*A woman is going to look for reasons NOT to go out with you*

Remember, meeting up with strange men is scary for a woman. First, there are issues of physical safety. If she’s not comfortable with you, she may feel the risk of date rape or worse. Less dramatically is the hyper-developed fear that many women have of being in awkward social situations. Women do not generally go by themselves to interact socially with strangers. So they bring a friend. To a man, the idea that you might not have a great time with this woman is irrelevant. Maybe you will, maybe you won’t. Maybe you don’t care, because she’s beautiful. Either way, you’ll never know if you don’t meet up. Worst case scenario is you cut it short early and go home. Men don’t agonize and worry over whether it will be socially awkward or not. But many women do, and we need to take this into account.

It should be clear by now that a quick interaction leading to some basic attraction and "we should hang out sometime" is rarely going to lead an exceptionally desirable woman into seeing you again. She fears safety, she fears social awkwardness, and who is this guy anyway? She’s busy and she only met you for five minutes. If she’s really trying to convince herself not to show up, she’ll wonder why you’d even call her when you only met for a few minutes and you know so little about her (after all, you spent that time attracting her as opposed to learning about her). Are you desperate? Or are you a player?

To fix that mistake, make sure you get into Comfort during the first meet.

I don’t care if you only have 10 minutes. You just have to play faster. You need to qualify and get into comfort for your "time bridge" (seeing her again) to stick. If you qualify and get into comfort, you minimize ALL of the objections we just discussed.

The second biggest mistake you can make is to go for the Day2 unnecessarily

There is nothing in Emotional Progression Model that mandates meeting her again at a different time (a Day2). Sure, you may have to, like if you meet her on your lunch break and have to get back to work, but a lot of guys are used to thinking of getting a woman’s phone number as something special. It’s not. Phone numbers do not lead to happy social lives; relationships do.

A phone number is a tool. It’s not a goal. It’s not even an intermediate goal. Don’t ever feel proud of yourself for getting a phone number.

In a way, a phone number is an admission of failure, even if it’s sometimes an unavoidable failure. A phone number says "I am not trying to move this relationship forward right now. I am taking the risk that she will flake and am hoping to continue this later. In the worst case, I lose the relationship with her. In the best case, she meets me for the Day 2 and I’m more or less where I am now"

Make sense? A phone number never gains you anything. A Day 2 never gains you anything. All it does is give you another chance to push the relationship forward if the logistics weren’t right to do so when you met her.

Here’s an example from the bootcamp in LA last weekend. We took the guys to a lounge in Hollywood and one of them was deep in conversation with Suzanne, a very fit Asian woman. Suzanne’s friends were happy for her to talk to our guy, because he had already won them over in A2 (as per the Mystery Method). It was about midnight. There was no time pressure. But when our student "ran out of things to say" he took her phone number and rejoined us.

This was a bad decision. All the phone number was going to do was help them meet up again to spend time together. However, they were already in the middle of spending time together. Psychologically, he wanted to "lock in" what he had "gained" so far: her willingness to give him her phone number. That’s a rookie mistake.

Of course, we didn’t let him leave Suzanne. We led him back to her with instructions to escalate until rejection. When the lights came on an hour later, they left to get pizza. And then to go home together. There was no need for a time bridge.

He made dozens of mistakes in picking up Suzanne. We were watching him the whole time and went over them the next day. However, because he had the guts to go for it, and because he did enough things right that he’d learned that day in our seminar, he got the girl.

Ready for the good news and the bad news?

The good news is that now that you know this, you’ll never make these two mistakes again.

The bad news is that you’ll still need Day 2s, and you’ll still get some flakes. To banish flakes entirely, you need to use these ADVANCED tactics:

* Have something specific to do. She should plan to help you shop for your niece’s birthday on Saturday, not "hang out sometime"

* Bait her into suggesting the Day 2. Let her chase you. Drop little hints ("I’m going to X" or "I’d love to do Y") and see if she tries to become part of those plans.

* Don’t make the day2 (or the phone number exchange) the last part of your interaction. That *feels* like a pickup. Stay at least 5 minutes afterwards.

* Engage her friends. When she goes home her friends should be excited for her that you guys are meeting up later and not wondering who that creepy guy was. To a woman, her friends’ approval for the men she dates is very important. Much more important than peer group approval is for men.

* Focus on the Day2, not the phone number. The phone should be an afterthought (and isn’t always necessary, although you take a big risk by not getting it). If she’s all excited to come see you at a book reading you’re going to be at the next night, you don’t need her phone number. If she likes you, she’ll come.

* Set up callback humor. If you have a running joke during your interaction where you have a nickname for her, and later you phone her and call her by that nickname, it often triggers a reversal to the previous emotional state. She’ll be back in the world of being out, having fun, and meeting men, as opposed to whatever mundane thing she was actually doing when you called.

* If she’s drinking, address it. Tease her that she won’t remember anything because she’s drunk. Pretend that you guys would have so much fun together, but she had to ruin it by being drunk and making it so it would be weird when you call. Bait her into convincing you that she’s not all that drunk, that she’s really into you, and she can’t wait to hear from you. After she’s said that, it becomes a lot harder for her to be flaky. Warning, don’t do this unless the girl actually IS really drunk. It will annoy her if she’s just had a drink or two.

While you’re learning all of this stuff, you’ll still get flakes. Here’s what to do when she calls to tell you "I have to work tonight"

* Don’t be upset. Don’t lecture her. She doesn’t care. All you’ll succeed in doing is making her momentarily feel badly. She’ll feel better once the next guy gives her attention, and she’ll associate negative feelings with you. Remember, she’s canceling because she’s not that into you yet. [99% of the time, this is the case. Would she be canceling if it were Brad Pitt?]. Making her feel badly is only going to make her less into you.

* Just in case that wasn’t clear. You planned to meet a girl at 6? You had to leave work early? Fight traffic? Cut your workout short? Miss your favorite show? Tough. She doesn’t care. That’s not her problem. If you tell her all of this, you just look like even more of a tool because you rearranged your life for a date with her.

* Act like a guy who has lots of women interested in him and pursuing him. If that was you, and a girl flaked, your reaction would be "OK cool" because you have lots of other girls who would love to see you and more than likely whatever it was you were going to do was something you were going to be doing anyway with cool friends. If you don’t think you have that attitude down properly, try canceling the next time you set up a first date with a random girl. Listen for her casual reaction. It didn’t ruin her day. It shouldn’t ruin yours.

[daredevil15]

Using NLP On The First Date
Author: Richard La Ruina


One critical mistake many men make on first dates is that women get easily bored of them and the attraction fizzles out leaving her to resort to the “let’s just be friends” speech. Using Neuro-Linguistic Programming techniques it is possible to get a deeper connection with her and ensure she’ll become so attracted to you she’ll be itching to see you again.
Mirror And Match

A fundamental NLP technique is mirroring and matching. Everyone has mannerisms they’re not aware of- the way they sit, gestures etc. People who are very close- best friends, relatives, couples etc. will share such mannerisms they aren’t even aware of. If you can match them on a first date, your girl will feel as if she is talking to someone she has known for a long time and will feel more comfortable around you. Here’s what to look for:

• Body position: match her sitting position and consider whether she is leaning in, crossing her legs and observe what does she do with her hands- all the while matching her.

• Pick out key words she uses to describe things and subtly repeat them back to her when you’re talking. If she says something is “lush” use that when describing something back to her.

• Match the pace and tonality of her voice. If she speaks quickly then do the same and it will make her more comfortable around you.
Be Positive

It’s essential to be positive. If someone is being negative then even if you agree with them, you’ll be more inclined to spend time with someone who is more positive.

If you have to say something was bad, negate a positive rather than using negative words- instead of saying something was “horrible” try saying it “wasn’t amazing”

Try repeating one to yourself 10 times and notice how the negated positive has no effect on your mind. It’s like saying: “I’m not a loser” all day- you’ll end up feeling bad because your subconscious mind doesn’t understand the concept of negations.

If she brings up a negative topic, pace the interaction and agree with her, then steer the conversation onto more positive ground. Be removing negative words from your vocabulary, people will want to spend more time with you and she’ll demand another date because you’re someone she likes being around.
Pace And Lead

This involves matching what the girl said or what you expect she thinks and then leading her towards a new answer which is more beneficial towards you. Develop a ‘Yes Ladder’ so you can get the right response when saying “I know first dates aren’t always comfortable… *she nods*… and sometimes they seem comfortable and you might not want to be there when they aren’t going really well… *she nods*… but then sometimes you have to take chances and be adventurous to be truly happy… *she nods*…”

By adding on the last statement to two truisms or things you know she will agree to, she will automatically agree to the third statement and accept it as true.
Visualisation

Be descriptive when talking to a girl and get her to picture things. Do this by picturing the scene yourself as you speak and the conversation will be more interesting, creating an almost hypnotic experience for her.
Anchoring

When she laughs or is in another peak positive state, anchor it with a touch. When you want to elicit that emotion from her again simply touch her in the same place and it should bring out the emotion again.

[daredevil15]

DiCarlo Escalation Ladder
Author: Vin DiCarlo



The DiCarlo Escalation Ladder is a step-by step formula, followed by a number of laws which govern it’s use for maximum effect.

It is designed to provide a smooth escalation, containing no significant jumps that may cause a woman to object. At the same time, the DEL contains no extraneous steps which are non-essential to the seduction process. This results in a FAST escalation sequence which is compatible with a variety of verbal structures, and has been field tested and perfected by myself, Vincent DiCarlo, in hundreds of trials.

Without further marketing, hype or other bullsh*t, I present… the DiCarlo Escalation Ladder!
DiCarlo Escalation Ladder

1. Eye Contact and Initial Conversation

Eye contact is the first step. It’s use shows social awareness and always improves your chances of starting a conversation. Start your conversational game shortly after eye contact.

2. Incidental Class 1

The first class of incidental kino involves the arms and hands. Shaking hands, tapping people on the shoulder and brushing arms are all very common things that we do on a daily basis. Done in an incidental manner, ie. occurring merely by chance or without intention or calculation, it is extremely effective at building initial comfort.

Incidental Class 1 Examples:

* Hand shaking
* Arm brushing
* Light touching on her arm to emphasize your points
* Anchoring her arm near elbow to hold her close as you talk
* Standing next to her with your arm touching hers
* High Fives
* Palm Reading

3. Overt Class 1

There is an unmistakable recurring pattern throughout the DEL: incidental kino, followed by overt kino. Overt means open to view or knowledge; not concealed or secret. While incidental kino is usually done in a context which masks your intention, overt kino is not. The incidental kino which precedes it creates the familiarity necessary for the overt kino to be accepted.

Overt Class 1 Examples:

* Holding hands
* Arm in arm escorting

4. Incidental Class 2

Class 2 kino involves any contact which takes place on her torso or legs. This is slightly more intimate than class 1, but does not include erogenous zones such as her breasts, crotch or inner thighs. Those areas are not paid any direct attention until the escalation ramp - to be defined later.

Incidental Class 2 Examples:

* Standing very close with your legs touching hers
* Sitting close together with your legs touching hers
* Lightly and incidentally brushing her abdomen with your hands while talking
* Briefly touching her back with your palm while speaking as if you are pulling her in to hear you better

5. Overt Class 2

Overt class 2 kino is usually done while sitting down. It’s not necessary, but definitely a smart place to make the transition to sitting down. This class of kino should be done in a protective, almost romantic manner.

Overt Class 2 Examples:

* Frontal Hugging (done best as a positive reaction to her compliance)
* Escorting her through the bar with your hand on her lower back
* Sitting next to her and placing her leg over yours
* Holding her abdomen on the side while sitting down and talking
* Placing her hand on your thigh

6. Incidental Class 3

Her hair, face and neck are the regions included in class 3. Many guys make the common mistake of touching these areas too soon, with a girl they first met. Girls are surprisingly protective of their hair, face and neck placing these relatively high on the ladder. Another common mistake is that more experienced guys will generally skip this step altogether, only to face last minute resistance later on.

Incidental Class 3 Examples:

* Brushing (or pretending to brush) something off of her face
* Talking very closely with your face touching hers because the environment is extremely loud
* Touching an interesting neckace she’s wearing, meanwhile allowing your fingers to lightly caress her neck
* Playfully pinching her cheeks

7. Overt Class 3

The manner in which kino is delivered in overt class 3, is very direct. It is meant to prepare her for kissing, and is done in a very slow, gentle and romantic way. Most of the time you should be sitting down, relaxed and maintaining a good sexual state and strong eye contact.

Overt Class 3 Examples:

* Placing her head to rest on your shoulder
* Moving your face into her neck and smelling her
* Lightly stroking her face with your finger, close in, looking into her eyes
* Running your fingers through her hair, close in, looking into her eyes
* Holding her behind the neck with your palm to the side of her neck, looking into her eyes

Escalation Ramp

While the above steps from 1-7 may take anywhere from 30 minutes to 10 hours, the escalation ramp is very rapid. The duration of the ramp should be about 10 - 30 minutes. Start the ramp very quickly once you have complete isolation in a sex location.

8. Kissing

Start kissing from a very close proximity. Don’t come diving in lips first from three feet away. Ideally you should already be in a suitable position for kissing before you try. If you have overt class 3 kino taken care of, you’re probably in the right spot.

A technique for building sexual tension - move closely in, slowly as if you might kiss her, and then move away and start talking about something else. This will build the tension and she will wonder when you’re going to actually kiss her.

A technique to initiate kissing - try placing your finger just underneath her chin and pulling her mouth towards yours.

Kissing should be light and short at first. You should be the one to pull away first. Don’t use too much tounge at first, just use it to tease her, and build anticipation.

9. Kissing Her Neck

Once you have kissed her for a bit, move down to her neck. Kiss it gently, while holding her close to you. Depending on how rough you want to set the mood, feel free to throw in some gentle biting too.

10. Touching the Bare Skin of Her Back

Once you have established kissing both on her mouth and neck, move your hands to her waist and underneath her shirt. Continue to hold her close to you, now with your hands directly on her back.

11. Stomach to Stomach

Now that you have established touching her skin, below her shirt, simply move your hand to the front, and lift her shirt, exposing only her stomach. At the same time lift your shirt as well so that your abdomen is in direct contact with hers.

It seems innocent, but will meanwhile trigger intense sexual feelings inside of her. The only time she feels contact like that is usually when she’s naked and having sex.

12. Kissing her Body

Having her shirt pulled up affords the opportunity of moving downwards to kiss and caress the bare flesh of her abdomen. Start kissing her there, along the sides, and move upwards.

Touching and kissing the breasts is optional. It is not necessary, and in some cases can be detrimental to your progress. There are some women who have a negative anchor to their breasts. Inch toward their breasts and feel her reaction. If she becomes increasingly turned on, then go for it. If she starts to close down, skip the breasts until you are already having sex.

13. Incidentally Stimulate Vagina

While you are kissing her body, you can position yourself between her legs and use your midsection to rub against her vagina. If you are kissing her mouth you can position your thigh to stimulate her vagina.

You can also be kissing her body and reach between her legs and plant your hand on the bed below her. Then use your forearm to stimulate her vagina. The key here is that because you aren’t using your hand or fingers, she has no basis for objection.

14. Direct Vaginal Stimulation from Behind (Inside Panties)

Once you have really amped her up by incidentally rubbing her vagina, move your hand around to the back and slip it inside her panties and touch her naked ass.

Next, move your hand all the way down and reach her vagina. Start first by touching the area around it. Then proceed to finger her from behind. Women never expect to have it happen this way. Trying to reach your hand down the front of her pants will often be resisted, but from the rear is unexpected and effective.

If she is wearing a skirt or dress, you will instead move your hand up the back of her leg, and reach her vagina that way. Finger her and then proceed directly to step 16.

15. Direct Vaginal Stimulation in Front

Get her heated up by fingering her, and then when once she is sufficiently turned on, undo the front of her pants with your other hand.

You can use the Situationally Relevant phrase “My hand is being crushed” as you do it, although it’s usually not necessary. Since she is engaged by the fact that you are fingering her, she will rarely object to your simultaneous undoing of her pants. You may also have her undo her pants, by saying “Unbutton your pants.” as you are fingering her.

Moving to the front, you’ll be able to get more penetration with your fingers, and get her to the point where she is practically begging for sex. Use a firm “come-hither” motion pulling forward on the front vaginal wall and stimulating her g-spot.

16. Remove Her Pants, Sex

The idea is to get her so heated up by fingering her, that she makes a commitment to sex, verbally or physically.

There are a few ways to go about this. Firstly, it is very important that you don’t stop fingering her before her pants are off. Too many times a guy will stop fingering her, and then try to take off her pants, only to get more resistance.

While fingering her you can say “Do you want me inside you?” Which will usually get a “Yes.” response. At that point you say “Ok, take off your pants.” and continue to finger her until her panties are off, and she’s ready to go.

Another option is to skip the question and directly tell her to take off her pants. Usually with your fingers busy at work, she will be more than compliant.

Another technique is to ask her “Do you want me to get a condom?” In 90% of all girls you ask this, they will say “Yes.” Not because they are saying they want sex, but because they want to appear safe and level headed. You will interpret this as the permission to get a condom and have sex with her, and it will most likely be met without opposition.

***
Additional Points

1. Higher Levels Unlock Access to Lower Levels

The rungs of the DiCarlo Escalation Ladder may be treated exactly the same as compliance levels. The point is, any time you reach a higher level through situational relevance, it unlocks the lower levels automatically.

A good example of this is in a loud club or bar, you can reach in and talk directly into her ear, getting incidental class 3 kino, touching the side of your face to hers. You are speaking to her in a way that is dictated by the situation, so it is accepted. If you accomplish this without her resistance, all lower levels will become unlocked.

2. Execution of the Escalation Ramp

The escalation ramp, which consists of steps 8-16 is most effectively executed in isolation in a sex location. It is not efficient to start the ramp with the intention of finishing it at a later time. Starting the ramp without finishing it will lead to an increase in flaking and decrease a woman’s attraction toward you.

This is because these sexual behaviors were formed thousands of years ago when we were still living in caves. The natural instintual urges, combined with a lack of knowledge of modern-day sexual consequences meant that escalation with a woman would 100% of the time lead to sex.

By executing the ladder correctly, you are matching her genetic sexual programming and giving it to her the exact way that she wants it.

It is acceptable to do the first part of the ramp - kissing - outside of a suitable sex location, but only if you plan on completing the ramp later in that same meeting. It’s not to say that kissing a girl on a non-sex meet will destroy your chances, but it certainly won’t improve them. Kiss-closes may look impressive and feed your ego, but aren’t technically optimum.

3. Incidental Vs. Overt Kino

There is always a question as to how to execute these different pieces of kino. In general, you should spend most of your time in the incidental phase, getting her comfortable with contact in those regions.

This pattern of incidental followed by overt is almost like a Jedi mind trick. Use the incidental kino in a very non-invasive, very much under the radar manner, and her subconscious will automatically accept the subsequent overt kino.

Since she accepts the overt kino, it is through a process of backwards rationalization that her attraction for you increases. The key is to make the overt kino extremely short. Each overt phase in the initial ladder should have a duration of 5-10 seconds. You’re not going to be holding her hand in the club for 5 minutes at a time while in class 1. Keep it short and sweet.

4. Group Ladder Theory

There is quite a bit of evidence supporting the idea of a “group ladder” concept. Within a tightly knit group of girls who share a “collective emotional state” with each other, it is possible that whatever step on the ladder you achieve with one girl can transfer over very easily to the other girls in the group.

In a sense, each group of girls has a ladder, which represents your escalation with that group. If you can comfortably touch and hold a girl at a certain point in the ladder, it creates an implicit trust of “this guy is cool” for the other girls in the group at that same level. Keep in mind, however, this does not include the escalation ramp, although it has been observed to happen with kissing quite readily.

5. DiCarlo Escalation Ladder as a Standalone Method

The DEL provides both a sufficient framework for escalation and a linear step-by-step process such that it could be used as a standalone method. You can use one of the many popular verbal structures out there, but basic conversational skills will suffice, given an elementary understanding of the ladder.

There is an inherent value and attractiveness to a man who can escalate in such an intelligent and socially aware manner, which is why your verbal content does not matter very much when using this method.

The DiCarlo Escalation Ladder combined with enough conversational skill to disengage her critical mind is a very powerful, yet “natural” method.

[Nick Krygier]

Haha, my friend is in the pirates movie

[daredevil15]

that story is included in neil strauss book "THE GAME"

[daredevil15]

Style's Structure
Author: Neil Strauss



I took some notes for myself the other day, and thought I'd share them. I guess this is my structure. May be too general and basic to help anybody, but here it is for posterity's sake.

WHAT MAKES ATTRACTION

PART ONE: GETTING INTO THE GROUP

STEP ONE
OPENER
Do improvised or canned opener
Give yourself a time constraint (“I can only stay for a minute because
I’m with my friends over there”)
Body language as if you’re about to leave
Convey personality, smile, but don’t be over-enthusiastic

STEP TWO (you can also fractionate opener to do this)
BREAK INTO THEIR WORLD
Best friend test
Make perceptive or teasing comments about them (negs are included here)
Insert challenges


PART TWO: MAKING THEM WANT TO KEEP YOU


STEP THREE (can also be done during or after step four)

Option 1: Takeaway or false takeway
Option 2: Join the group, mid-story or routine, but again give yourself
time constraint

STEP FOUR
DEMONSTRATE VALUE
Use gimmick, magic, psychic routine, humor, game, whatever

STEP FIVE
BUILD RAPPORT
Elicit Values
Find Commonalities

STEP SIX
CLOSE
OPTION ONE: #close
OPTION TWO: Isolate target, phase shift/seduce, and *close
OPTION THREE: Stay in group (or return to group) so that you end the
night with them. Try to get to target’s house, or get her to your house

[Elyts]

yep, this becomes evident in the book "The Game" by Neil Strauss...simply method, easy to pull off, clearly and concisely put here bro...

I am a big admirer of Style, i like his...well his STYLE a lot, the way he handles himself and the way he gets what he wants, i love it...btw who noticed that Elyts is Style backwards??

[daredevil15]

Author: Thundercat



From Section 1, The Art Of Body Language, Chapter 2, page 13:

The eyes are the window to the soul. They will always betray what a person is thinking, if you’re deft enough to pay attention to them.

I’m going to share some secrets about eye contact with you that is going to help you meet women like crazy. I hope you’re ready for them, because I’m really spilling the beans here.

Are you ready for it?

Here they come…
Secret #1: The Vertical Scan

This is a major body language cue, and one that is hard to pick up if you’re not paying attention. Think about a woman you’ve seen that you found attractive. What did you do? Catch one look at her face, then looked down over her body, going from head to foot, right?

In short, you were checking her out.

Women do the same thing. When they see a man they’re attracted to, their eyes will go from his face to his feet, because they want to see the whole package.

When you make eye contact with a woman, look at what her eyes do. If they flick downwards, guess what? She just checked you out!

She liked what she saw in your face, and wanted to see the rest of you. It doesn’t matter if she looks away immediately afterwards, because she was attracted enough to you to check you out. That, my friends, is a major signal that she will be open to you approaching her (especially if the vertical scan is followed by a smile!).

The only problem with this great signal is that it’s so easy to miss! Women you haven’t noticed yet may have already done it. Also, it’s such a quick action, you can easily miss it if you’re not careful.

So when looking for the eye scan, always pay careful attention!
Secret #2: The Horizontal Scan

This is one of my favorite body language cues, because when this happens, you know you’re in the home stretch!

This usually occurs after you’ve been talking to the girl for a while, you’ve successfully attracted her, and it’s time to kiss. When you look deep into her eyes, you’ll see them flicking back and forth as she looks from one eye of yours to the other, trying to get a read on you.

When you see this happen, go for the kiss right there! She’s ready for it!
Secret #3: Dilated Pupils

I’ve mentioned this one before, but I’ll reiterate it here. A woman’s dilated pupils is an unconscious attraction response. The wider the pupils, the more attracted and excited the woman is getting.

You’ll know what you’re doing is working when you look into a woman’s eyes and notice the black iris part is rather large. This is commonly referred to as the “Doggy Dinner Look,” that you’ll see in cartoons when a dog is silently begging for it’s master to feed it.

The problem with dilated pupils is that other factors can affect its interpretation. For instance, if it’s dark in the room the two of you are in, her pupils will naturally dilate to let in more light.

By the same token, if the woman is drunk or using drugs, her pupils will be dilated as well, because other stimulants are working to excite her body. So be aware of the different factors at play when reading your target’s pupil dilation.
Secret #4: The Eye Contact Test

I think you're really going to like this secret, because I'm going to share a little trick with you that I've developed that really makes it easy to meet a woman.

Too often, guys are simply too nervous to approach a girl because of the extreme amount of uncertainty involved. Think about it. What runs through your head when you want to meet a woman?

• "Am I her type?"
• "Does she have a boyfriend?"
• "Will she find me attractive?"
• "Maybe she's too busy to meet anyone."
• "Will she be receptive to me talking to her?"

I'm sure you can think of a 100 more things that run through your mind when you see an approach opportunity come your way.

If you get scared or nervous when this happens, it's because of one thing:

UNCERTAINTY.

You don't know how the girl you want to approach is going to respond! So your scared because the outcome MIGHT be negative!

Well, worry about this no more, because with this little trick I'm going to share with you, you'll never have to worry about a negative reaction again.

This little trick is so simple, ANYONE can do it! And it's a 100% fear free tactic.

We all know that eye contact is important, but something funny happens when we make eye contact with another person. We become COMPELLED to respond to them in some fashion. When it comes to women, you can use eye contact to find out if she's open to meeting you. In fact, in a way, she'll be opening YOU!

So here's what you do...

The next time you see a woman you want to meet, LOCK your eyes on her! Seriously, just stare at her eyes, even if she's not looking at you.

When people are out and about, they will usually look around to keep aware of their surroundings. This is an unconscious thing we all do. Eventually, the woman you're locking onto will look around to scan the area.

When she comes to you, her eyes will invariably meet yours, and you'll be locked in eye contact.

When that happens, simply SMILE at her.

If she smiles back, guess what? She's OPEN TO YOU MEETING HER. If she doesn't, then move on to someone who is.

And when she does smile back, say "Hi!" And if she responds, you're in! Go right into your opener.

I like to use this tactic in low-key situations, like grocery stores, coffee shops, book stores, etc. Even though it can work just as well in bars (as long as the light is high enough that she can actually SEE you!).

Often times, after you smile, the girl herself will say "Hi!" and then the rest is easy.

The next time you go out, do this to every woman you see. Lock your eyes onto them and see what happens. I guarantee you, you'll be surprised by the results.

[daredevil15]

Author: John Alexander


Watch a man with high status--Brad Pitt, George Clooney, or the CEO where you work--and you'll notice that he moves differently than the rest of us. He gives off vibes that he is hot stuff, and because of that, women get soaking wet over him.

You, too, can create that aura that makes you attractive to women.

Have you ever noticed the way your friends look when they're all nervous? They're looking down at the ground with their arms crossed, fidgeting, with their voices cracking and their eyes bugged out.

And when you give off that kind of body language yourself, women don't want to be around you.

Now, think about successful guys. They've got girls all over them and some great body language going on.

So, what's the number one secret between those high status guys and the low status guys? You've probably guessed it... the alpha males are relaxed and in control when it comes to social situations.

Make no mistake about it... relaxation is the most important mental state for you to be in.

With that in mind, here are some pointers for you to develop the mindset and body language of an alpha male (and by the way, if you think they're easy, you're right... you can make these changes as early as tonight and have even the hottest girls clamoring for your attention):

1. Don't allow yourself to feel worried. Just let your worries go, since you can't solve any problem by worrying. So suck it up, and quit thinking about what might go wrong. Just live life.

Now, I know what I just said is easier said than done (to use an old--but relevant in this case--cliche). You've spent your whole life up until now dwelling on thoughts that make you feel worried.

But what is this emotion we call "worry"? When you think about it, it's simply the fear of what might happen in the future. Essentially you're punishing yourself by feeling upset before anything bad has happened. It makes no logical sense to worry!

So the solution is to avoid contemplating your worrisome thoughts anymore. Identify them for what they are... toxic to your emotional state, and... let them go.

Simply not dwelling on negative outcomes that make you feel upset will reduce 90% of your worries.

2. A second strategy to relax is to breathe through your abdomen rather than your chest.

When you breathe, imagine that you're bringing air down to your stomach. Feel your belly rise and fall as you breathe.

3. Avoid nonverbal behaviors that are the opposite of relaxation:

- Raising your shoulders.
- Wrinkling your forehead.
- Fidgeting with your hands and/or legs.
- Tightening your facial muscles.

4. Relax all your muscles and slow down all of your movements a notch.

Alpha males generally move unhurriedly, as if they are in control of time itself. Beta males are nervous and make jerky movements. Imagine you are standing and walking through a swimming pool, where your movements are slow and fluid.

5. Relax your eyes and eyelids.

Beta males hold their eyelids wide open because they are so nervous. Their eyes dart all around. Instead let your eyelids rest. Look straight ahead. Only give things your attention if they interest you. While you're out and about, do the affirmation to yourself, "I am sexual, I am relaxed, and I am in control."

6. If someone wants your attention, move your head slowly.

A trait common to many beta males is being so eager to please that when someone calls their name, you see them spin their heads toward the person unnaturally fast.

[Elyts]

this has happened to me before, on the bus going to school...just smiling and then when our eyes locked she immediately showed me all her teeth...haha when it happened I actually thought to myself "this is too easy" and then we just started talking, its true you can learn so much about someone from just their eyes, its amazing...

great post buddy

[Sloaner92]

Fantastic.

[daredevil15]

Everyone Loves Everyone
Author: Brad P






It's easy for new dudes to get caught up in cocky/funny and negs/teasing and all that. It's hard to know what to counter-balance it with. So, if you're new you should try this. And for advanced guys, this vibe might be something you're already doing; you just need to understand why it works so you can calibrate it properly.

I call this vibe "Everyone loves EVERYONE!" and women get really into it.

What is it?

It's basically a mixture of friendliness, building commonalities, and over-exaggerating connections with people.

Step 1 - Agree with something she says. Get excited about how much you agree.

"You love Canada? Oh my god I fucking love Canada so much!!!" (Go into a long story about Canada.)

Anticipate whether she will love or hate something, based on her character, and then agree with it instantly.

"Atlantic city? I hate it. You hate it too? Yeah, it sucks!! So scummy! Dirty! Yucky! Never going back again..." (Lead into a long story about AC.)

Step 2 - Play up commonalities, even if it's a reach.

"Wait, you're from Nebraska? My Mom used to tell me bedtime stories about Nebraska. She said the sky in Nebraska was made of gumdrops and magical bits of candy corn. I've always wanted to go there."

If it flops, you play it off as ironic. "Ha-ha, just kidding. My mom's never even heard of Nebraska."

Play up real commonalities too. "You have a dog? What is its name? I used to have this dog Chico, he'd jump through a hoola hoop and do all these cool tricks. You're a dog person? Me too!"

Play up commonalities that everyone has (these are the easiest).

"You like movies? Me too! What kind? Oh yeah I love those! I saw it on TBS."

Step 3 - Talk about all the people you know and how you love them all.

"I've only been coming here for 2 weeks, but I feel like I know everyone here and they are like my old friends. You ever get that feeling?"

"Everyone is so nice in Los Angeles. I've only been here 2 months, and people are asking me to party every night. Man, it's the most party-happy town I've ever been to in my life."

Step 4 - Tell stories.

Start stories with the following phrases:

* "When I was little..."
* "My Mom used to tell me..."
* "When I was in high school..."

She says she has a boyfriend, you say "Oh sweet, tell me all about it baby" while physically escalating.

She says "I'm not having sex with you" you say "That's a great idea, 'cause then I can finally have a female friend. I've always wanted a purely plutonic friend" while physically escalating and sending mixed signals.

Yeah I know a lot of this stuff sounds like ass-kissing, but it's a good mix with some of the harder game tactics. And you can use it on the peer group if you get good at it.

Why is this appealing?

Women are always looking for more and more friends, more and more orbiters, more and more social resources. It seems their hunger for this never subsides. It's never enough. That's why they keep building to 123865 friends on MySpace. Their instinct tells them that if you can build your social resources, you will always have a backup plan if something goes wrong. You will always be able to regain social value, or get a new guy, or provide for children, or get help taking care of children, or get protection from danger... the list goes on and on.

Some important motivators of female behavior are:

Fear of abandonment - this affects women's decision making processes all the time. Even little things in daily life are affected by this.

Preservation of relationships - women try to preserve relationships all the time, even when it seems pointless to men. That's why a woman says "we can stay friends" after a breakup and "let's just be friends" when she's discussing some guy who only wants to sleep with her. They just can't let it go. They want to preserve every relationship. They want to always have the potential for some social advantage... a backup plan... someone to help her... someone to say good things about her and build her overall popularity.

So when you mix all that together, a lot of women go ga-ga for this kind of a vibe. It makes them feel like everyone loves everyone when you're around. If you watch closely how women interact with their female friends, they're always trying to create this utopia of everyone loving everyone. The utopia actually occurs for brief moments on Oprah and The View from time to time.

[macrylinda]

Originally Posted by Nick Krygier

wow- talk about building some sexual tension. that was a great post

Personally I love Tyler Durden, however, I haven't read the game, let alone any book specifically PU related. What did they say about him that would make people hate him?