Ex Girlfriends

[Elyts]

So im in love with this girl whose just broken up with me...and even though shes done that, I still love her, like its not as though my feelings instantly change overnight...but when I see her, I act flirtacious around her, because I really really want to be with her...but I know it cant happen, its like forbidden love haha...what do I do though? like ill always be into her and whenever I see her I "sarge" her and we have those moments where we get real close and then it just ends and I realize what i want...im not sure how to handle this situation, because all i keep thinking about is HER and I cant make her love me, she has her free will...what do you do when you love someone who doesnt love you back?

[Sloaner92]

http://pualifestyle.com/blog/how-to-get-that-one-girl/
That could help, maybe not so much in this case.
I forget if the article addresses it or not, but my recommendation is to find out why she broke up with you and to fix that. Give her some time before you try again.

[Wicked]

Simple bro.
Are you ready for this one!? Because its a hell of a doozy.
*Ahem*
You move on.
SUCKS doesn't it!?
Once the attraction fades away it really is a bitch to get it back.
I usually don't bother with it.
I mean sure you could make her jealous which in my opinion works WONDERS. But blah fuck it.
If the girl you're pining for doesn't feel that attraction toward you.
Then why even bother?
Move on buddy, plenty of other fish out in the sea.

[NickH]

Good old case of one-itis

Happens to everyone, happened to me, but eventually I just stopped running into her and the thoughts left me. Then when you see her again you are like damn, shes hot.

[Pav]

Sounds like you'll have to move on. Try to see a bit less of her for a while, lessen your time hanging out as friends until you feel that you can JUST be FRIENDS with her.
But in saying that, I'm now back together with my ex which happened about a year and a half ago, so things can rehappen, if given the time to mature and grow up.

[Elyts]

i suppose this shit just needs time, but styl...one-itis to the facking max man i was crazy about this girl too and its weird cuz when im with her we both act so flirtacious until its gone "too far" and she stops it...sometimes shes hard to read, like does she want it does she not? she tells me shes done with it but she acts like shes not, im a little confused...

but i do want her as a close friend, cuz shes the best haha we have loads of fun together, its just weird not being able to act like i used to around her i guess, thats all...also i notice that i havent forgiven myself for losing her, and im alreayd asking HER to forgive me...seems shtrapid to me...

question: if 2 people love each other very much despite what theyre been through, is there any reason for them not to be together?

[Pav]

Originally Posted by Elyts

question: if 2 people love each other very much despite what theyre been through, is there any reason for them not to be together?

No. Unless it involved heavy cheating or things that pained the other member, I don't really see what stops them id they've worked through their differences.

[Elyts]

then i dont understand her

[Chikito]

Most of the pua community would say move on and leave her be.

However if you two were together recently and you just split up I think this is less of a one-its and more of a damaged relationship.

You need to find out why she dumped you in order to make the decision to move on or not. Either you have done something wrong or she has, or worse she has found someone else. If she feels like you fucked it up then yes you should go for it. If she has moved on, then even though I know its hard, you have to let her move on, as you said. Free will.

Another question you want to ask yourself is. Is this girl really worth your unconditional forgiveness for putting you through this? You need to be clear where your standards are

[Elyts]

I did something wrong...she hasnt found someone else, and she never did anything wrong...i fucked it up and we both know it, she is still movING on as in shes having a tough time but shes not over it at all, i mean it just happened...and its not me forgiving her i dont think, i mean i think i put MYSELF through all this so it is ME who should be asking her for forgiveness...i think its more prudent for her to ask HERSELF that question than me, really...:

Is this [GUY] really worth your unconditional forgiveness for putting you through this? You need to be clear where your standards are

but i know what youre trying to say, and if you ask me, shes worth every second...i mean i love her